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Post by Mommy2amazingGrace on Apr 19, 2006 13:19:16 GMT -5
I like Myangel's idea of a southern meet for those of us who are down here and can't fly up to meed the others due to the funding problem. I think that if we were to do this, then we could maybe video or something like that, and then share if with those members inthe north. We could each video the Retreat, then make copied and share with all of us. I hope that makes sense. I kinda babbled but hopefully someone will know what i'm trying to say!lol
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Post by ladybug on Apr 19, 2006 13:38:36 GMT -5
Mom2BrenKae, Thank you
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Post by jillgibson on Apr 19, 2006 14:34:09 GMT -5
I just want to say that providing childcare wouldn't solve much. I know I am more over protective than most parents, but I think very few people would leave their children with people they don't really know in real life. I know I wouldn't.
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Post by becca on Apr 19, 2006 15:41:01 GMT -5
* children, breastfeeding mentioned
Jill ... You make a very good point. Thank you for saying that. To add, even if we decided to trust each other with babysitting duties, many children will not stay with someone they don't know. So, that wouldn't work. In my case, I would probably either leave them with relatives or take along mil/dh or another person who could be with the children.
Another issue is nursing mothers. I nurse exclusively. E won't take a bottle. So, I'd be out of the program every couple of hours feeding her ... something I certainly wouldn't want to do in the group where it might hurt someone's heart to see that.
Becca
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Post by walkersmommy on Apr 19, 2006 17:19:08 GMT -5
Wow there are lots of glitches arent there!!
I sure hope we can work them out!!!
Maybe we should start with when...that might me a good place to begin, and then where??
Just an idea we have all these polls going and no real method to the madness LOL LOL
Jess
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Post by wuvmyangel93 on Apr 19, 2006 19:12:22 GMT -5
Clara
Maybe in the process of doing a retreat do a fundraiser or a few to help out with expenses that might otherwise prevent some from coming.
Regional or something more centrally located might be better for more people, might be good to do a poll to see where the majority of folks live.
I definitely think all children should be welcome to attend, especially since many are tiny or the parents are single parents.
For the newly grieving folks on sg or those without children have sg activities without the children and some fun activities just for the children.
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Post by dkh0728 on Apr 19, 2006 21:50:32 GMT -5
Yep love this idea and would definatly attend if at all possible. Let me know if I can help
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Post by hard2bawoman on Apr 19, 2006 23:07:52 GMT -5
Hi ladies, I thought that I would like to share my feelings on having children at the event. First, let me say I lost my little one in December. Yes, it is very difficult sometimes being around pregnant women and babies. Somehow, the women here at SG are different. I know that we have all experienced similar loss and grief. When one of these women becomes pregnant, I am overjoyed. I know that someone had made it to the next level. The level I long to be at. Motherhood. I will say, if I have a little one by then I would not want to leave them behind. At the same time, with a retreat-like event I do not think its appropriate to have children there at all parts. There should be time to express grief. Their should also be time to celebrate life. Having seperate events will make it easier to pick and choose what you will attend.
I think the idea of having a "reunion" for some, is going to be too hard. How many women after loss want to go to a big family picnic with babies crying and children running around? Families celebrating being families when your family is so incomplete. As wonderful as it is to be able to have little ones after loss, for some of us, it still hurts to be in the middle of it all. I would suggest, as many women have, two days of sessions or events for just the SG sisters and a day at the end where all the families are invited. I think the reunion idea where its families all the time, is not going to help some of us to get out of it what we need. I would LOVE LOVE LOVE to meet those wonderful little miracles of these ladies who have become so dear to me so I think children should be included, but there needs to be some events also for those of us who have not had the privilege yet.
Thanks, Jo
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Post by Mommy2amazingGrace on Apr 19, 2006 23:41:07 GMT -5
Well said Jo!!! Hear Hear! I agree wholeheartdly. I still find it hard to be around babies and pg women, but I do find it would be different with the Ladies here at SG. We have all formed a small family and it's different from the family we all have. It's more special, because at some point we have all been in the same place, and hopefully we will all be on that TTC and PAM board.
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Post by troopie on Apr 20, 2006 1:04:55 GMT -5
I have been reading the pages on whether to bring kids or not. I would like to think that the ladies ( an d getlemen) here have suffered the loss of a child. Whether the child was alive and lived to become and adult, lived only a few years, or never graced the earth with their presance the loss of them has been great to someone. We all know the horrible journey that that entails. I would like to think that a strong shoulder would be there for whoever needed it whether it be because they have a hard time being around children, pg women, or what ever else. I have a good thought but just can't get it on paper. We have a special bond here and like me although I am a little envious of all of you who are TTC (because I won't be able to that because dh doesn't want any more kids) I read the boards everyday and cheer for those who do get pg. I will not miss seeing Mandee this year (whom I love! You too Audra) simply because she is pg. However I remember how it felt being in that place. Having someone there by my side who knew what I was going through would've helped.Someone holding my hand might have made it a little easier. Let us bask in the joys of our fellow travelers. Just everyone keep in mind that there are some people out there who will be hurt by children, pg women. Heck I would probably be envious of you ladies who have such wonderful supporting dhs! I think if everyone kept an open mind and open heart the retreat or reunion would be a wonderful time!!!! Sorry about the spelling errors it's past my bedtime. Hope to met more of you soon.
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Post by sadattimes on Apr 20, 2006 7:45:54 GMT -5
I would go as long as it was somewhere close to this side of the country. I think that would be fun..
I would come me and possibly one or BOTH girls, depends when. BUT i would come alone because in reality i have noone else to attend with now that I have left Daniel.
I too am alittle over protective and not sure i would let someone i really didnt know to watch them. I dont EVEN have a babysitter i trust other then my parents.
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Post by threebythree on Apr 20, 2006 9:15:43 GMT -5
Very true ~ I like the idea of different kinds of days because personally, and I know that I am not alone here, I don't want to be at a draining, grieving, depressing seminar/retreat. Some people do and that is just fine. What I want to to meet these wonderful women who have pulled me through some of my darkest days and cheered me on as I went through the toughest pregnancy of my life and then wept with me as I lost another precious child. I want to meet them, hug them, share stories and most of all I want to laugh and heal! With that being said...there are soooo many different opinions and wants here that I honest don't see a good compromise for this!
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Post by walkersmommy on Apr 20, 2006 10:37:45 GMT -5
I think we need to have some one, or Clara just take control..
first where is this going to be held!! Once we work out some of those things and when etc we can move on to other things.
I understand both sides of the spectrum, but there will have to be compromise or this wont happen. And sadly enough, some people wont come. But that isnt the majority and I think its imortant to try and see what happens
I would love to meet the wonderful women who SAVED me and are still helping me everyday!!
Jessica
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Post by my3girls on Apr 20, 2006 12:34:40 GMT -5
My parents live in VA so DH & I could do a two-fer trip to PA for a retreat ~ now how to do that with a newborn (assuming this would not happen for a few months!)
I agree ~ all DH's & kiddies/babies are welcome ~ I would love to meet all the people we've been discussing too!
Brie
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Post by Lendy on Apr 20, 2006 13:19:32 GMT -5
I'm of course interested.
I've planned 2 get togethers for the ladies living on the East Coast. Both times at least 20 ladies were interested, we all voted on where and when. Then the first time only 2 showed up. The second time, I let it go because after all was decided, only 2 ladies could come.
So while it is such a great idea and so many women are interested...would you actually be able to get off work if you work and make the trip, short or long? It takes SO much work to get something like this together and when only 2 people will show up...is it worth ALL that time and planning? And traveling?
Just a thought, like I said...I've planned 2 and with both, many women were interested, but only 2 showed up!
I'll definately be there, wherever it may be!
Lendy
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