mouse
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Post by mouse on Aug 30, 2012 13:38:26 GMT -5
To our members who are on the mend emotionally: What has helped you through this very difficult time in your life? What general advice or encouragement do you have for those who's loss is still fresh and who's pain is still unbearable? Please share your healing journey.
God bless.
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Post by lauren&k&p&a&j&b's mom on Aug 30, 2012 14:10:29 GMT -5
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Healthylife4 Tori
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Post by Healthylife4 Tori on Sept 1, 2012 11:56:05 GMT -5
Try to remember Who you were before your loss. Pushing grief down or away will only prolong the pain. But letting it consume you isnt going to help the healing either. Each day take small steps to be the woman you were before. - Rember to love yourself it isnt your fault. Losing a baby will be the hardest thing you will ever endure- If you do not have the strength to be the you were before your loss, Faith has always helped me.
You may have to deal with family and friends who will never "get it" and that's ok. If they are going to be rude or uncaring. You may just have to let them know they have not walked in your shoes and you need alittle love and understanding. ( in a firm way)
Deal with them the best you can.
Coming here got me through my roughest days. And I made some life long friends. ((hugs))
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Post by jezebel on Sept 21, 2012 11:23:28 GMT -5
I take one day at a time and I cry when and where I am they don't understand the pain you feel most part they have not had the soul ripped from them they try to console you telling you they know what it is like maybe they do but most time not they are trying to be good but don't understand be patient. the pain is fresh for a while for how long of a while I don't know I am 5 months on this wicked way the road has no bumps but pit falls but YOU CAN climb out and I find when I cry it is a release I feel much better after I have cried not just a little but a drag out knock down crying fit.
They say when you laugh it releases endorphins and it make you feel better I believe this for crying. I am to fall more but I will pick my self up brush off and continue on this wicked way somewhere along the way I think it will not be so wicked and it will become more of a nice way instead of giving me tears of sorrow it will give me tears of joy when I have things that remind me of my son.
It will not always be so hard and it is true time helps I didn't believe it I thought this awful feeling the knot in the pit of my stomach would be there for ever but you know what it is not and in time it WILL get better.
Some pray some do other things to cope but do what ever it is you feel you think you should do where ever you are if you need to cry.
I feel bad for all that have walked this wick road and maybe it will not be so wicked one day for you.
I am deeply sorry for all on here
Rhayden
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Post by triangelmom on Oct 10, 2012 13:57:31 GMT -5
I found that support groups such as this one helped me immensely in that I was able to share with others who have been through a similar loss. No one really understands unless they have been through it themselves. Lighting a candle on the anniversary of each pregnancy loss and remembering my angels on the due dates, also helped. The pain never goes away...it lessens in time and you move forward.
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Post by redbarron980 on Jan 14, 2013 17:52:51 GMT -5
You know this whole website helped me. The last thing I wanted to do was talk about it and when I found myself desparately needing someone it was something like 2 or 3am. To hear that how I was feeling wasn't insane or abnormal and that I was simply feeling like a human being should made each day easier than the last. And every year I give blood in memory.
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