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Post by jezebel on Nov 9, 2013 16:42:43 GMT -5
Today is gonna be a sad day once the news is given it is a done deal. My husband's brother's son's son is to be took of a mechine today or tonight. They said we got koin them but I can't handle this, I still have bad days but not so much so I cry but I feel sad, this baby has been fighting for the time his was born 4 months ago. They said the vetilator is doing more harm to him he was born 26 week not the 40 week that is the norm. I know heard of some cases they are took of and still live but to what a veggie what kind of life is that being a veggie the strain of not getting better or the strain of how the kid is and all the bills that accur can put you in the poor house, I know maybe I am roguh as to this but you don't know what the kid will be like IF the kid is took off on the other hand keeping the kid on it is not good either Iwe had to take dad of the same mechine I didn't have to much over it I still was reeling from my son. now this and if this is not enough my microwave and dryer decided they didn't want to work any more and died. What else can happen I think the washer is deciding to die to but ain't sure to die or not the clothes come out wet like they didn't go trouogh the sprin cyclwe so I thought them through and water comes out. What can happen next???
Rhayden
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Post by Clara Hinton on Nov 14, 2013 14:44:21 GMT -5
I'm so very sorry to hear of all of the sadness. Making the decision to take a baby off of the ventilator is such a pain-filled decision to have to make. My prayers are with the entire family.
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Post by jezebel on Nov 14, 2013 19:27:34 GMT -5
The 9th they took him of he was 4 months old and then yesterday they put him in the ground next to Terry's mother and father , I wanted to say I have a son in heaven to but I didn't want to take away from them their grief and thinking I was trying to turn this around to my son, so I stayed silent. I never know what to say and I have foot in mouth disease so I thought silence would be good. They have been on facebook and I had told them I was sorry but I know they will have some very hard days I told them of this site and how much this site has helped me I really thought I had gone mad (crazy) with the stuff I was thinking but it is normal I told them as all you told me there is no right or wrong way to greive and they will grieve as they only can no one else can tell them I offered them anytime they would like to talk to me just contact me I know the journey and I coud help but I wonder if my road is the same as theirs my son died in a fire and they had to take their son off life support and my son was 30 and theirs was 4 months could the grief they feel be different then mine?? I don't want to bombard them with things I know how hard it is to just get by the days after the death would you be able to answer this about both deaths??
Rhayden
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Post by Clara Hinton on Nov 16, 2013 15:50:48 GMT -5
Grief is so personal, and I do think we grieve the loss of a younger child a bit differently than an older child, and also the way a child dies also comes into play with how much trauma we go through (nightmares, remembrances, etc.) That being said, the PAIN of child loss is the common factor with all parents. We feel so alone and lost and empty that at times we don't even want to get up and get out of bed. The journey is long and difficult and any kind of love and support is needed and appreciated. I think just by you saying how much you care will help. Of course we all know not to say, "I know exactly how you feel" because none of us knows exactly how another person feels. You might find some additional insights and help on my blog: www.silentgriefsupport.com I hope this has helped in some way. |
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