premi baby

[jezebel]

I am not sure where to put this if this is in the wrong place forgive me. 4 months ago my husband's son and son's wife had a child a boy, but he was 26 weeks not full term, He has been fighting for his life from the get go and have been on a ventilator since born. It is hard to hear of this little wee one. They (the doctors)  say that he has not got any better and has actually gotten worse, I don't recall his birth weight but he could fit in the palm of the father hand. It is so helpless to not to do anything for this wee one but they say this mechine is doing damage to the wee ones lungs, How can that be and if he is no better they are to take him off support Sat. I don't know they have strong faith but through all of this all their prays are unanswered, I don't want to sound harsh here. I thought maybe somene can tell me how this mechine is hurting the wee one it can not be very much pushed air into him. ( I don't understand how it works) I am sure Sat. if they do this my memories of my son will flood me so will this little ones death, I don't know if I could do this, I reckon if the lungs are being damaged and he is suffering I to would do as they are about to do, I don't know how to explain what I am feeling at this time it is mixed, I don't want to say anything off and be seen as not careing like I had my son for 30 years kind thing they is a AWFUL AWFUL thing to say to someone so upset, I have sent a massage on thier facebook account PRITELY not for public to see telling them I am sorry and if I can do anything for them just call you think that is the best I can tell them? The little one has got up to 6 lbs I thought this was a good sign he is getting better but I also recall the people at the hospice tell us that they will seem to get better then crash. (die)

Rhayden


VERY BLUE

how can I help them cope there are 3 familys living together at my husband's brother's house so how could I help them cope?