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Post by judiann on Mar 17, 2013 23:06:13 GMT -5
walking a thin line here.....wondering why I am surprised at anything this woman does... i'm lost here....she CAN NOT go home HATES her house, despises the Man that has stood by Her for 56 yrs & his Dog of 12 yrs..... why?  having a hard time here... it's all up to me, as I'm the only child....the 1st blood....my girls do not want to get in my way or take the responsibility for her.....how schocking, huh??? i just don't know what to do....... judiann |
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Post by toxophilite on Mar 18, 2013 4:02:07 GMT -5
((((((Judiann))))))
Don't feel so alone, we are all here for you any time.
Above all, don't look for reasons why your mother feels as she does, she is obviously not rational any more.
I have never had to deal with this situation, thank the lord, but I think that I would just carry on as if nothing had changed, she probably won't remember anyway.
It won't be easy, whatever you do, you can only pray for an early release for both of you.
Hold on to your own inner strength, you can and will get through this, you have done it before, and will again.
Just hang in there, beautiful woman, don't let her damaged soul scar yours, you deserve better than that and you know that you do.
Love you forever my dear friend, I hope we really meet up one day, what a talk fest that will be.....
Endless love and hugs, Janet
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Post by lindac on Mar 18, 2013 13:32:27 GMT -5
((((((((((((((((((((((Judiann))))))))))))))))))))))
I wish you didn't have to go through this. It seems like the parenting role is reversed and that is hard enough under any circumstance. It is a heavy burden to bear but you will do what you feel best and you are NOT to feel any guilt over your decisions. Your mother will be upset, mean and cantankerous no matter what you do. You just have to hold your head up and get through it. Take one day at a time. You are stronger than you realize and can do it. We still have that rope. Keep holding on.
Love you my dear friend.
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Post by joan on Mar 19, 2013 19:23:51 GMT -5
just keeping what you are doing, judiann. Stand firm! As you said - She CANNOT go home. I see myself possibly in the same role one day. You are doing what has to be done. She will be mean and miserable no matter what. Look after you, and your dad, the pets etc.\
Keep us updated
Big (((((((hugs)))))))
Joan
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Post by judiann on Mar 20, 2013 21:24:49 GMT -5
thank you all for your support  & ((((((hugs)))))))) janet....thank you so much for "beautiful woman"...made me feel good :-).... as for her "damaged soul"??....she has scarred me since I was a wee babe...i have fought her all my life. sadly...she forgets that I AM my "mothers daughter".....her one & only. I'm sure she's hating that now.... I stand Firm on what I'm doing. I Know it's the best care I can get for her, especially since she has to depend on medicare & Medicaid....plus 10 miles of red tape. Today is also the last time i would ever hear Melvins voice....strange how very clear, so sweet, his last words to me..."I love you too, Mom. Catch ya later" I almost told him I would call him back cause Lisa was here....who to spend minutes with?? I'm so glad I chose Him because she was being such a Brat kid.... Hard day....my friends, my Family (((((((hugs))))))) to all...can't handle anymore now Love ya's, judiann |
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Post by joan on Mar 20, 2013 22:38:55 GMT -5
BIG cyber (((((((((hugs))))))))
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The 3 Terrors 
& ((((((hugs))))))))