Post by katsmom on Jan 9, 2013 10:13:29 GMT -5
I used to come to SG often a few years back. At one point in time it hung on every post just to make or though the day after my stillbirth in 2004. I made it through two subsequent pregnancies on these boards, but became a victim of identity theft in 2007 which caused me to greatly limit my online usage.I trailed off from these boards. Occasionally lurking, especially as anniversaries neared...eventually not at all.. but today I'm back.
Ive scanned for familiar screen names, but only 1 or 2 ring a bell. Possibly those members have moved on it the sn changed, or perhaps my memory fails me. Probably the latter, add I couldn't remember my own sn for anything. I just created a new one.
I don't know why I'm back today. I think it has something to do with my husbands wants to have another child. I think that no matter how long its been since my still birth, I'm still scarred and view pregnancy as an emotional painful, anxiety riddled time. At least for me. I know its not like that for mostly everyone else. I lost my first pregnancy and was completely blindsided by it. I gave birth to two healthy children in the 3 years following, but what my doctor would classify as ready uneventful pregnancies were emotionally trying for me. I was convinced each time that the baby would die, that it was only a matter of time.. . Those babies are 7 & 5 years olds today, and I still live in constant worry that something out of my control will happen and I will lose them.
I dont dwell on my stillbirth any longer. At least not consciously. I used to take off work on Oct 29 (angel day ) because I couldn't bare to do anything but wallow in my own grief alone. Three years ago, I stopped taking the day off and treating it like any other. This past year, I missed it all together. Not until mid November did it occur to me that it had been 8 years... wow. ..8 years....
8 years. ..Yet I'm still here. I'm alive. My health is well. I'm a mommy to a terrific 13year old (step-technically) daughter, and 7&5 yr old sons. A fantastic husband.... I'm in a ple acin my life where I am truly happy and I count my blessings everyday. A place that I could imagine add little as 5 years ago. When I made my first post following my loss, I couldn't fathom bring at place where my stillbirth didn't rule my life. Now, I hardly think about it. Instead of yelling my detailed story, I only mention I'm mommy to aN angel in rare circumstances when its relevant to the conversation...
OK, I'm just rambling now . Not even sure what my point its. But I'm hoping I'm welcome back .
Ive scanned for familiar screen names, but only 1 or 2 ring a bell. Possibly those members have moved on it the sn changed, or perhaps my memory fails me. Probably the latter, add I couldn't remember my own sn for anything. I just created a new one.
I don't know why I'm back today. I think it has something to do with my husbands wants to have another child. I think that no matter how long its been since my still birth, I'm still scarred and view pregnancy as an emotional painful, anxiety riddled time. At least for me. I know its not like that for mostly everyone else. I lost my first pregnancy and was completely blindsided by it. I gave birth to two healthy children in the 3 years following, but what my doctor would classify as ready uneventful pregnancies were emotionally trying for me. I was convinced each time that the baby would die, that it was only a matter of time.. . Those babies are 7 & 5 years olds today, and I still live in constant worry that something out of my control will happen and I will lose them.
I dont dwell on my stillbirth any longer. At least not consciously. I used to take off work on Oct 29 (angel day ) because I couldn't bare to do anything but wallow in my own grief alone. Three years ago, I stopped taking the day off and treating it like any other. This past year, I missed it all together. Not until mid November did it occur to me that it had been 8 years... wow. ..8 years....
8 years. ..Yet I'm still here. I'm alive. My health is well. I'm a mommy to a terrific 13year old (step-technically) daughter, and 7&5 yr old sons. A fantastic husband.... I'm in a ple acin my life where I am truly happy and I count my blessings everyday. A place that I could imagine add little as 5 years ago. When I made my first post following my loss, I couldn't fathom bring at place where my stillbirth didn't rule my life. Now, I hardly think about it. Instead of yelling my detailed story, I only mention I'm mommy to aN angel in rare circumstances when its relevant to the conversation...
OK, I'm just rambling now . Not even sure what my point its. But I'm hoping I'm welcome back .