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Post by jezebel on Dec 20, 2012 11:16:32 GMT -5
I just thought to ask how everyone is fairing Thanksgiving went of without a hitch I was so busy I didn't have time to weep I am feeling a little guilty because I didn not weep any for David but Christmas is coming and I am hoping I will not weep all day long. We are to have the whole family at his brothers house around 7 pm and present will be open before then. I bought some flowers and a small Christmas ornament for my sons mock grave I hung the ornament on his marker. I am not able to run back and forth to see him but I think if I lay stuff with him here that he still would be pleased. My husband no doubt will tell me I am going to far but I don't know how to handle this and I am handling the best I can. I don't want to seem crazier then I already am the death of a child I think you are not normal in some respect it changes in some way and the only people who might understand what I mean is all of you. You are not taught how to handle things like this we are taught many things in life but death of a child we are not taught we know the spouse will die before us or after us but a child we think they Will, live long after we are gone.
I know there is a different way to grieve for everyone and if I feel putting things at the mock grave I have for my son is the only way I can seen to handle this then isn't this how it is??
or am I bonkers now doing this? I bought black a red flowers for David to put on his mock grave here in NC/
Rhayden
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rosem
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Post by rosem on Dec 20, 2012 14:36:30 GMT -5
Hello Jezebel - I think you do what makes you feel the best. My son passed away almost 4 years ago at the age of 22. I bought a small pre-lit walmart tree and put ornaments on it that make me think of him. This year I added a game controller ornament and a character from Family Guy. I have poker ornaments and sports ornaments and the tree is in the downstairs area, where Phil always hung out. I've been a bit weepy this season as Phil always knew I loved Christmas the most and we would have fun with it.
Take care and I hope you have a peaceful holiday! Margaret
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