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Post by piperlynn on Nov 18, 2012 21:16:33 GMT -5
This is kind of weird to say but...I found out I was pregnant shortly before I miscarried. Like...a day before. It was entirely my fault, I have irregular periods so I didn't notice when I missed a few months. I never got sick, never really had a bunch of symptoms. The only reason I suspected I was pregnant at all was because I just "felt" pregnant. Before I could schedule my ultrasound and appointments, I miscarried. My doctor said it was most likely a blighted ovum. You'd think I would be able to avoid the depression and grief, but I guess not. I've wanted to be a mother from childhood, so I was very excited about my pregnancy.
My questions are simple. Was there really a baby if it was a blighted ovum? Should I tell people what happened? To date, only 2 people know, and 1 would have been the father. Any tips on how to cope with this would be great.
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Post by dawn on Nov 28, 2012 23:13:03 GMT -5
First of all...((((huge hugs))))) I'm so sorry for your loss. A blighted ovum is an egg that is fertilized and then early on stops developing before the fetal pole stage. I personally believe that life begins at conception. You were pregnant. That was your baby, no matter what embryonic/fetal stage it was. You were that little one's mother and you have every right to grieve that precious little one. Whether or not you choose to share with others is up to you. My only suggestion would be to allow yourself time to grieve. If you do share, do so with those that will be a shoulder to cry on and a listening ear. Some people will stay stupid things...that may hurt even though they don't mean to hurt you. I'm sorry that you are now part of this "sisterhood". It's not one that any of us wanted to sign up for.
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