Post by pocooso on Oct 22, 2012 16:23:09 GMT -5
How are your relatives handling the death of your child as time goes by?
My daughter was newly 7 when her sister was murdered in 2009. She never had counseling for the death of her sister, and seems to be well adjusted. She is 10, always full of energy and always involved in extracurriculars.
My husband's leg was amputated in the same incident. He and our daughter were hit as pedestrians by a repeat drunk driver, who was sentenced to life, but then stabbed to death by another inmate. My dh still is trying to find a prosthetic that is comfortable.
We went to our state capitol, and we tried to get a tough law in place for repeat drunk drivers, but it did not pass. A similar law was passed, though. We still hope to get this on ballot in 2014, but these thing require funding.
I always think about my daughter, but I go on with my life, as though nothing has changed. I want my children to know me as being fun to be around. I want them to have a good life; I think this means I have to have a resilient mind set, one who knows how to go on, even though I have been through difficult times.
My dad told dh that my mom is going to counselling for the loss of our daughter and family conflict that has been exacerbated with our daughter's death. (i.e. My brother never called or emailed, or said anything to me about my daughter's death.) My dh thinks he is like the devil. While my mom thinks that what he did was wrong, she basically thinks my brother is a great guy.
My mil, who has always been difficult, has become more difficult. She unintentionally favored our daughter that died. Our younger daughter is irked that now that her sis is out of the picture, mil now wants to pay attention to her. In addition, mil alienates my daughter and me. She accused our daughter of cheating on monopoly, angrily, saying, "You didn't give me the right change. This is why I never win!" This is just one example of many. Anyhow, mil cries about our other daughter not coming back again, especially since her remaining granddaughter doesn't want anything to do with her.
I think some of my other relatives miss her too, but not to the extent of going bonkers.
My daughter was newly 7 when her sister was murdered in 2009. She never had counseling for the death of her sister, and seems to be well adjusted. She is 10, always full of energy and always involved in extracurriculars.
My husband's leg was amputated in the same incident. He and our daughter were hit as pedestrians by a repeat drunk driver, who was sentenced to life, but then stabbed to death by another inmate. My dh still is trying to find a prosthetic that is comfortable.
We went to our state capitol, and we tried to get a tough law in place for repeat drunk drivers, but it did not pass. A similar law was passed, though. We still hope to get this on ballot in 2014, but these thing require funding.
I always think about my daughter, but I go on with my life, as though nothing has changed. I want my children to know me as being fun to be around. I want them to have a good life; I think this means I have to have a resilient mind set, one who knows how to go on, even though I have been through difficult times.
My dad told dh that my mom is going to counselling for the loss of our daughter and family conflict that has been exacerbated with our daughter's death. (i.e. My brother never called or emailed, or said anything to me about my daughter's death.) My dh thinks he is like the devil. While my mom thinks that what he did was wrong, she basically thinks my brother is a great guy.
My mil, who has always been difficult, has become more difficult. She unintentionally favored our daughter that died. Our younger daughter is irked that now that her sis is out of the picture, mil now wants to pay attention to her. In addition, mil alienates my daughter and me. She accused our daughter of cheating on monopoly, angrily, saying, "You didn't give me the right change. This is why I never win!" This is just one example of many. Anyhow, mil cries about our other daughter not coming back again, especially since her remaining granddaughter doesn't want anything to do with her.
I think some of my other relatives miss her too, but not to the extent of going bonkers.
