Post by janablessed on Sept 21, 2012 17:47:54 GMT -5
My name is Jana and I lost my firstborn son May15th, 2012. He was 22 weeks and it was the day after Mother's Day. My water broke and the Dr's say it was because of an unknown infection. My son was born asleep and was the most beautiful thing I've ever seen in my life.
I just passed my original due date 2 days ago and I feel like I'm starting the grieving process all over again. I am a Christian and firmly believe Jaxson is with the Lord, happy and safe. But of course, I am devastated and very, very raw.
It was difficult to conceive him the first time and I'm very afraid I won't ever get pregnant again. I know my husband is also very fearful of trying again. He's going to be 40 in the spring and I just turned 31. I know that isn't old but I feel a clock ticking internally so loudly...louder now that Jax is gone than even before when we were trying.
I think today I just needed to badly to find a forum where I can just be honest and feel safe with other women who know how I feel. I'm not angry with God but I'm angry with all the other women around me who are having babies left and right as though it's second nature to them. I'm so, so sad Jaxson isn't hear and I'm afraid of the colder months coming and the earlier it gets dark outside and the holidays coming up. I don't know how I'm going to survive it.
It already feels like everyone has forgotten about our loss since it's been over 4 months but of course, that is not very long at all to learn to cope with this intense pain.
I just want someone to hear my cry today. Someone to remind me that God hasn't forgotten about me. Someone to tell me that with time it gets better...that God is still good and that hope remains. I can say those things but I feel none of them.
Thanks for reading.
I just passed my original due date 2 days ago and I feel like I'm starting the grieving process all over again. I am a Christian and firmly believe Jaxson is with the Lord, happy and safe. But of course, I am devastated and very, very raw.
It was difficult to conceive him the first time and I'm very afraid I won't ever get pregnant again. I know my husband is also very fearful of trying again. He's going to be 40 in the spring and I just turned 31. I know that isn't old but I feel a clock ticking internally so loudly...louder now that Jax is gone than even before when we were trying.
I think today I just needed to badly to find a forum where I can just be honest and feel safe with other women who know how I feel. I'm not angry with God but I'm angry with all the other women around me who are having babies left and right as though it's second nature to them. I'm so, so sad Jaxson isn't hear and I'm afraid of the colder months coming and the earlier it gets dark outside and the holidays coming up. I don't know how I'm going to survive it.
It already feels like everyone has forgotten about our loss since it's been over 4 months but of course, that is not very long at all to learn to cope with this intense pain.
I just want someone to hear my cry today. Someone to remind me that God hasn't forgotten about me. Someone to tell me that with time it gets better...that God is still good and that hope remains. I can say those things but I feel none of them.
Thanks for reading.