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Post by khaskell on Jul 26, 2012 15:10:51 GMT -5
I am totally feeling like im going crazy. I had a loss in october and one just recent in june. The one in october i cried etc but this recent loss has me in fear of losing my hubby and 19month old son alot. I drive down the road and flashes of chills and suddenly im afraid ill get into an accident or my hubby will be run over. Or that my baby will need me and i wont be able to get to him in time. I have times of crying and other times im fine. I work out and clean like crazy and then other times where i am so exhausted. I also have night mares of seeing my m/c all over again. I had a dream of feeling my baby move inside me only for baby Eliyah to all of a sudden not be in me anymore. My first two were in 07 and 08 then had my son in 2010 and then these most recent ones. 07 i was farther along then the others bout 11 weeks. I also go to church but recently i can not stomach even staying when we go i just wanna hide and not be around others there. I know this is long but it is the quick version and only examples theres been other things going on Please tell me am i crazy is this normal. (ive tried to find a counselor called over 20 but none has called back even the ones i called multiple times and others are back logged.)  |
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Healthylife4 Tori
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Post by Healthylife4 Tori on Jul 31, 2012 21:42:52 GMT -5
I am so sorry for your losses. I can relate after my second loss I also had a fear of losing my family. It is normal feelings. Life is so fragile. Going to church can be hard for christians also because its hard to be around people. - God understands. And he loves you very much.
About a counsler just keep calling. I never seen one probally needed to but didnt. There is no shame in having someone to talk to. Praying for you. ((hugs))
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Post by dangelica on Sept 22, 2012 11:30:12 GMT -5
Hi everyone, I am new to this site. Yesterday, Sep 21st 2012 I received some really sad news. I had started spotting the day before nothing to be alarm. I had 3 previouse miscarriages and I didn't feel that this one was going to be another. I was almost 12 weeks and I was feeling great, everything was wonderful. We had seen the heartbeat it was strong 157 bpm. At the ER they perform an ultrasound and they didn't find a heartbeat. I been so devastated, heartbroken and without words on I to feel. My eyes hurt from crying, and I know there's many more tears to come.
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Post by Clara Hinton on Sept 28, 2012 8:27:00 GMT -5
It's distressing for me to read that you've called 20 counselors, but none have called back. Many times, counselors are not equipped to guide people through this type of loss, especially early child loss. As much as I hate to say this, a good many people take the stand that an early loss is not that significant. We each know better than that! (I personally had 6 miscarriages and 1 stillbirth, and let's just say that I'd never want to go through that again -- ever!) Church often does seem distant and meaningless when we're in deep grief. I think we need "God in the flesh" during times like this -- meaning a person to come stand by our side, hold us, validate our grief, and help us get through. Sadly, that doesn't always happen. What do I suggest? Try finding a local support group at your hospital. Many times those groups are a great place to meet others who are going through the same heartache as you and they will lend lots of support. Journal your thoughts daily. I think journaling helped me so much! When I wrote things down on paper it put them in much better perspective. Get a copy of my book, "Silent Grief" by Clara Hinton. I'm not here to sell books, but I am here to tell you that the book will help to validate all you are feeling and will help me to not feel like you're crazy! I promise you the book will be help you to more fully understand your grief. It's written so that it's conversation style -- very easy to read. Lastly, take good care of yourself by walking some every day and making sure you're fully hydrated (by drinking lots of water). It's amazing how much those two things can help -- walking and drinking water. Stop by here often for more love and support. I can tell you from personal experience the pain isn't always this raw. Love, Clara |
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Post by marianne on Oct 4, 2012 17:26:03 GMT -5
dangelica; you should post separately as a new post, so the lovely people here can support you directly.
khaskell: i cant believe how hard it is to find a counsellor over there- keep trying because you family need you !!!
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