Feels like I'm on a roller coaster...

[mamaof2]

My emotions have been so crazy lately. One minute I am 100% okay with my soon to be ex husband being out of our lives,and the next I am bawling my eyes out about it.

The divorce is the the process of being finalized. James had no problem agreeing to giving me sole custody with him receiving limited visitation.

I found out from his brother that James is dating his brothers wife's ex-best friend. Who is a heavy drinker and a pill popper,although she claims that she has quit doing pills. Rumor is that they plan on getting married as soon as the divorce is finale. I told James that she is to have nothing to do with my babies. She is not to accompany him on any of his visitations or anything like that. He got really mad and told me that I am making him choose between the kids and his girlfriend. Honestly, at this point I could careless what he thinks. He made this choice. He walked out on me and the children.

He came and saw the kids on Easter for a few hours. Ruby wanted absolutely nothing to do with him and freaked out anytime he got close to her,which made him really upset. I guess he doesn't understand that she is a baby and doesn't remember him at all.

Ryan and James had a blast together, Playing with cars,play doh and sidewalk chalk. Ryan had a major melt down when James left,which I expected to happen.

I called James the next day and told him that he has to agree to be consistent in Ryan's life,none of this show up out of the blue after months of not seeing him. He agreed with me and said that he will starting coming around a few times a week.

Now my question is....can I get supervised visitation even though James has no history of being violent or anything like that? I know that he would never physically hurt the kids,but I don't trust him honor my wishes when it comes to keeping his new girlfriend away from my babies...

[Healthylife4 Tori]

Hon, it will be like a roller coaster as long as he is coming around. I understand your reasons. You want your children to have their dad. And that is a very selfless act on your part. But pleaase take care of your heart also. I hate when men jump out of one marriage then into another relationship. Its like he is taking a insurance policy to insure he wont be alone. I could be wrong but i believe yOu can bring up his girlfriend having a drug problem. And voice your concerns there. My ex husband had a girlfriend And i requested she not be able to stay all night. - their relationship did not last. They had all the plans of getting married etc. Im praying for your family. God has a good plan for you and your babies.- Please remember that. Even without your husband. - Im so sorry your going through this. And espeically little Ryan. I would keep up with all visits. - this may sound sneaky but on one of the visits I would hide a tape recorder and have a disscussion with him about your concerns of his girlfirends past. The more you have in court to prove things the better it will be. And your doing it to protect your kids. ((hugs))

I hate the way your husband is acting. Try to think long term on any legal documents. do not take it easy on him or cut him a break. Because in the begining of a divorce people make promises but as their life changes the go back on just words. Legal docouments will be all you have. If this woman isnt a good person- I hope she will fade away. I would say yeah buddy - you made that choice when you walked out. Do not let him make you feel guilty, your only job is to protect those babies. Not make his relationship easy with his girlfriend. Just reading this brings back so many memories for me. And it makes me so mad for you.

[missingisaiah]

I second bringing up girlfriend and your concerns. Praying for you during this super hard time.