WHOA! Friend posted this on FB re: her ttc journey

[springtimebabe]

I have a very very close friend that I met that had her ectopic pregnancy 2 days after mine in June 2010. I moved to upstate NY but we keep in touch. She has had 3 miscarriages (not ectopic) before 8 weeks since and is just so depressed and upset.

Check out this article she posted (Chap. 5)
www.trosch.org/ide/sex-cycl.htm

What gets me is the surge of sexual desire in the Fall and that being that peak season of conceiving. There's more.

Just thought I'd share since it's FALL!

There are some other stats on there that, as I look back, are quite accurate.

Please pray for my friend Kristin. she has had 4 m/c's and 1 ectopic and lost one fallopian tube.

Thanks.

btw, my dh passed his (at home) test for his med cert.!!! ;D

[Clara Hinton]

Thanks so much for posting this article. It's filled with lots of great/interesting information!

I'm so, so sorry to hear about your friend having so many losses. I hope she is taking care of herself emotionally and especially focusing on taking care of the depression. So many times we toss aside depression and think it will go away on its own, when most of the time that's not the case. Help is out there and we need to take advantage of the help! My special prayers are with her!

And, congratulations on your husband passing his test! That's great news! ;D

Love,
Clara

[springtimebabe]

Thanks Clara. I certainly appreciate the prayers for my friend. Her moods are so erratic. She had a m/c in 4/10 and then the ectopic occured in 6/10. She has seen specialists and her fiance has had some tests done too. She has been pregnant several times since her ectopic and loses each pregnancy before they make it to see the baby's heartbeat on the first u/s. She is not the type to let go of our friendship and not share the joy with me as I had Tobias. Some other people in her life are really annoying though and she complains about how easy it is for them and etc...

I just feel scared for her. She is relying on one fallopian tube. Once one has an ectopic, there's a higher risk of having another one. She keeps getting pregnant and losing. I finally had the courage to tell her something I was concerned about. I told her to get more testing, give her body a break because ultimately if one of these times she gets pregnant and the baby implant in her remaining tube, it's all over. She took it really well.

It's hard. I jump for joy each time she gets pregnant and tell her I have high hopes for her and all optimistic things a friend could say. She gets excited (scared). Most people are sick of her "drama" as they call it. (mostly her family). But, each time within a week or so, I get the call from her and it's always the same. She's starts with spotting and then it's turns into a full blown painful m/c.

I want to be there for her. I have cried with her so many times because I don't forget those feelings one bit.

She is not a believer she claims. I think she was but after all these losses she finds no comfort in prayers or from God at all. I run out of things to say. I remember when my faith was gone and if anyone even mentioned God to me, I got infuriated. Somehow I was just lonely and broken without God and He healed me heart so much...Then Tobias came along!!!!!!!!!

Sorry to ramble about Kristin. I just need prayers for her. I need prayers for me to say and do the right thing. She is almost in the 2ww and this month she is most likely going to ovulate on her intact side.

Thanks.