Going to Dr tomorrow

[Healthylife4 Tori]

Sorry for not posting sooner I haven't had the net at home. Tomorrow I'm going to obgyn. Back in Early October I had bfp on a frer but took another test then it was -. Which is really odd for a frer. I had posted this on sg face book.

Anyway I haven't had a cycle since the bfp.
Plus we are having a baby dedication at church. I love my church i love all the babies but its going to be hard for me to attend the service. Call me selfish. - like i said i love all the my church family but i feel sort of guilty not going to the service. I should have two babies attending plus another being born in January.

My pastor's wife is really making things hard by the things she says. A lady at church lost her 18 year old daughter three weeks ago now she found out she is expecting. And the pastor's wife made the comment God is giving her back what she lost.

I was is horror at her words. I frowned and said no child replaces another. She said i can say that i lost a son. Goodness i have been so emotional these days.

[springtimebabe]

I hope you get some help at the dr tomorrow.
I don't blame you at all for not attending the service. That is NOT expected of you. It's a trauma trigger and will bring on feelings of sadness.

I was JUST discussing the topic about a goofy neighbor of mine years ago that said " I believe God gives you your babies back after a miscarriage" She was referring to her son being born/getting pregnant after her loss. Then she had another baby. Then followed m/c #2 and she went on to have 2 more children. So, according to her version of God's math here we have 2 babies lost and 3 given back. No sense!!!!!!!!!!!

Another example is me. God will never give me back in this lifetime all the babies I have lost!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So, I interpret people just coming up with some kind of God logic in their own minds and expressing it.....and rather IGNORANTLY!

Sorry (((((((( HUGS )))))))))) and focus on the possible. The possible being that God may bless your womb again and your dream of another l/c is possible....ALL through God's Grace.

[justlostanangel]

{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}} Tori!! I hope that you were able to get some answers from the dr. I don't blame you for not wanting to attend that baby dedication service; that would have just been too much!! It never ceases to amaze me what people will say, even those that "should" know better!! Please keep us posted on how you are!!

[shannon1717]

Tori- I'm not on here much, but i hope you got some answers...know that i'm thinking of you always...People say dumb things when they don't know what to say. I always think they should just listen and not talk as much!

Hugs,
Shannon

[Krista]

How did it go Tori? Been thinking of you.

Can't believe your pastor's wife said that, especially since she has experienced a loss. Every child is a blessing, but can NEVER replace a child that has died!

[dawn]

(((Tori))))

[Healthylife4 Tori]

Thank you everyone for the support, My heart is coming around about the baby service. It totally wouldnt bother me if...If my pastor's wife didnt say some of the things she says. Like- you just cant keep a baby!!!- Ouch. She means well.

The dr said my diabetes is throwing things off. My goal is to try to lose more weight and re-engergize in getting healthy. And put things in Gods hands about TTC. - Keeping the faith.
I seen a double rainbow the day of the dr visit. which always reminds me of my twins. - But i took it as a sign to keep hoping and stay strong.