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Post by judiann on Oct 13, 2011 23:59:53 GMT -5
((((((((Hugs))))))) I'm so sorry I did not reply soon enough! Sure wish you would keep your thoughts up long enough for us old "farts" to reply!! I so agree with you!! Halloween can be so *bleeping* morbid!!! I'm still shocked at what ppl do & really think it's OK..... how sick can they be be??? never understood why it was Ok to scare our little ones so much.... I never allowed it, but way back then  .....it really didn't happen like it does now.... Great BIG (((((((((((((((((((((((((((Hugs))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) Love ya Tons, judiann |
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Post by myangelamanda on Oct 14, 2011 8:17:50 GMT -5
((((((((((Judiann)))))))))))))
Thanks for letting me know I'm not the only one and (((((Brenda))))) thank you for your PM. It's weird around here anymore and I know I'm just as guilty for not posting, but I miss the old days when we really were like a tight family and we all could post and get immediate replies. Sorry I took it down, but I just figured it wasn't even worth anyone's time to even read it.
Let me just add, though, that now there are more fake tombstones on yet another neighbor's lawn. I HATE those decorations. I HATE Halloween. I HATE that most people laugh at this morbid stuff they put out trying to "out do" the other neighbor ~ I'm living the REAL DEAL and no one cares to even just TRY to imagine my life without my child ... buried in the ground ... with a REAL stone with HER name on it not just some stupid saying ... they just think it's all a joke and that I guess I can "put away" my horror the way they all can come November. Well ... I can't.
None of us here can. No matter what we say or do we are left to live our lives without our child and Halloween and the decorations sort of "mock" our grief if you ask me and in the midst of all the "mocking" we are then additionally tortured by having to see all this disgusting, morbid stuff wherever we go (no choice as it's every freakin' where) and, at least for me, it is an "in-your-face" reminder of the real life horror story I'm silently living.
(((((((((((hugs to both of you))))))))))))))))) Thanks for writing and letting me know I am not the only one who feels this way. It really helps.
xox
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Post by jaredsmommyforever on Oct 15, 2011 1:47:26 GMT -5
Hi Michele,
Well, I am trying to reconstruct this thread because I missed it. But I can say that I am totally with you on this. It isn't funny and it isn't sensitive. And other than some lucky children, most people have suffered some loss or another- even if it is someone elderly. So how is any of this funny? But frankly I could expand this too. There is so much out there that has skulls and crossbones on them-- it is such a popular fad, and I find that so upsetting. Deeply. So I am with you. Sorry this is upsetting you, but of course it is. Wish I knew what you guys originally said though...
xoxo
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Post by myangelamanda on Oct 15, 2011 6:55:11 GMT -5
((((((Denise))))))))
I'm sorry I took down my post. It honestly was just about my neighbors decorations and how several of them have turned their front yard into a cemetery (scary ones at that) with stupid tombstones with stupid sayings all over them (among other morbid and horrible decorations).
It makes me so sad because I have a real one with my child's name on it and I go to a real cemetery that is anything but scary but rather pretty and tasteful as most cemeteries seem to be.
I can't remember exactly how I wrote what I wrote, but for me it's just hurtful that people who KNOW my life (like my neighbors) are just so blind to how insensitive their tacky decorations are to someone who lives this horror daily. I never decorated tacky even before my life became a living nightmare and neither did they ... it's evolved over the years (I posted about it a few years ago) and I just can't get away from it. I decorate with corn stalks, pumpkins, a few cute scarecrows etc ... nothing gross, disgusting or death related.
If I didn't loose a child I'm not sure any of this would even affect me because it never did. But now it really just makes me so sad that I just hate Halloween and all the ugly decorations that some people seem to find funny and even worse ... tasteful and appropriate ... with no regard for others' who are just stuck in a silent h*ll of sadness and grief wishing for a happier moment and not one of having to stare death and it's after effects in it's face daily.
Thank you for commenting even though you didn't know what I originally wrote, my friend. ((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))
xox
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Post by missingisaiah on Oct 15, 2011 20:58:03 GMT -5
Michele, I miss those days of instant replies too.
Today I saw a yard that reminded me of your neighbor's yard. I don't think they could have squeezed in one more fake tombstone if they tried. To be honest, I wanted to get out of the car, knock down each one of the fake stones, and grind them into dust.
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Post by jaredsmommyforever on Oct 16, 2011 2:15:28 GMT -5
Hi Michele,
Thanks for filling me in. Right next door would be SO difficult! I guess I am pretty lucky that my own street is very sedate-- it's just other places that I have the choice to avoid that look the way you and Brenda are describing. How deeply insensitive, and so unnecessary for the celebration of this holiday. I hate it that you are suffering with this.
Sending love,
Denise
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Post by Jaleel's Mommy on Nov 4, 2011 4:32:44 GMT -5
I hate Halloween!!!! Tomb stones, skeletons is just a reminder of my loss. I don't want to think of my son being just bones in his casket. Up until Halloween I had a profile pic on fb that said "This is my I hate Halloween costume"
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Post by ourprincesschloe on Nov 30, 2011 1:40:06 GMT -5
I know that I m a little late to chime in here, but can I tell you how offended I was by my neighbor's annual graveyard. This year they included a dry erase easel thingy with "Mummy's Day Care" written on it with little gross creatures surrounding a full-size mummy. Seriously? This doesn't even fit with the origin of Halloween; It just depicts death as this disgusting way to be. I just don't get it.
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.....it really didn't happen like it does now....
