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Post by kristanee on Oct 8, 2011 21:11:01 GMT -5
 I found out I was pregnant last Sunday. I went to the ER for some bleeding. They diagnosed me with Threatened Miscarriage. I called the doctors office on Monday and they had me in on Tuesday for blood work. On Wednesday they had me come in for a trans-vaginal ultrasound. The ultrasound tech went to look at the ultrasound pictures with the radiologist; who then called my doctor. They sent me to the ER with no information about why. The doctor then comes in and tells me that i am pregnant with twins! I couldn't believe it! I was elated!!! Then she broke the bad news to my fiance and I. One twin was in my uterus and had stopped developing. The other twin was developing in my fallopian tube and had a heart beat. She had to rush me to emergency surgery before my tube ruptured. I lost both babies. they removed my right fallopian tube and said my right fallopian tube is scarred. Not sure if it is safe for me to have another baby. I don't know what to do. I am 3 days post surgery. I haven't broken down completely. I don't know what to do. My fiance has been super supportive and he is down because of it all. The only good that came out of this is that my life was spared so that I could be alive to take care of my 4 other children. I don't know if anyone has ever been through this.
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Post by marianne on Oct 9, 2011 4:13:18 GMT -5
so, so sorry for you and your family.
As you will discover cruising this site, twins does bring with it lots more risk and many of our Mums have had you situation of two losses at once, although the ectopic prograncy was an extra whammy!
If your heart can take it, i'm sure theirs no reason why you cant try again. There's no guarntee the fallopian tube with scarring still wont allow an egg through then you'd be in the same situation as any other pregnancy. Plus, I think the remaining fallopian tube should release eggs more often.
Take your time and let these ladies support you, you've been through a lot and these things take time.
it sounds like you may need to have a chat to a fertility doctor when your situation is a bit more settled. For instance, they could check to see if if the fallopian ube is blocked with an ultrasound and putting a bit of dye through. I have had that one its no big deal.
A sad welcome here and I hope you are soon PAL.
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Post by kristanee on Oct 9, 2011 17:41:24 GMT -5
Thank you Marianne. Im doing pretty good today. And my doctor did say something about having a dye test on the other tube. When i go in for my check up I am going to ask her if she can go ahead and schedule that testing. I want to know also from her if I can have another child if I need to do it sooner than later or if we can wait some. Today, I sat down with my fiance and we picked out names for our little angels. Serinity Grace and Connor Ryan. We chose a girls name and a boys name because we dont know what the babies sexes were. We just know that they were paternal twins not identical. I am hoping that this will help us in the grieving process.
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Post by marianne on Oct 9, 2011 21:30:45 GMT -5
A lot of people have the names and it sounds like your doing all the right things, but some days will still be bad! Hang in there!
I would go in with a few questions, because theya re the expets after all!
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Post by icerayven on Oct 10, 2011 13:27:05 GMT -5
Sorry for your losses..that is definitely a double whammy!
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Post by missingisaiah on Oct 10, 2011 22:31:19 GMT -5
So sorry for your loss. There is a board on this site called I had a miscarriage and it also covers those who had ectopic pregnancy. If you want to check it out you might get more response and hear from people who have been in your place.
I am glad you chose names for your precious babies. I too hope it eases some of the pain, just a little.
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Post by kristanee on Oct 18, 2011 13:24:23 GMT -5
Thank you everyone! Ever since I named the babies I have been feeling much better. But Its only been 2 weeks. I feel like I am a bad person because I am not grieving. I think about them all the time, but not very many breakdowns. And on top of everything, now my mother wants me to send my other 3 children to live with her for awhile! So, Im having to deal with that. Thats after she told me that I didnt need two more children and that i should just get a tubal! The NERVE! Im trying to keep the peace, but its just so hard to do! I just dont want to pile anymore stress on myself or my family right now.   |
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faithinangels
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ectopic lost 6/4/09 at 6w 5d. EDD 1/23/10. m/c lost 5/9/10 (mothers day) at 6 w 1d. EDD 1/1/11
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Post by faithinangels on Oct 19, 2011 15:22:35 GMT -5
I am so sorry for your loss. I also had an eptopic pregnancy that the doctors almost missed because they wouldn't listen when i kept telling them something was wrong when i started spoting. By the time they got me in I was ready to rupture. TG a friend of mine convinced a diffrent ob to see me and do an ultrasound. I'm sorry your mother acting that way during this difficult time. It amazes me how rude and insensitive people can be. I have a list of things I got really tired of hearing. I hope things get easier for you soon.
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Post by kristanee on Oct 24, 2011 16:03:25 GMT -5
Im so sorry for your loss also. I just hope that i can have more children. I at least want one more, even though my fiance and I have 4 children between the two of us. Children are such blessings! Thank you! I go to talk to the doctor on thursday to see if i can have a dye test run to see if i can have anymore children, since they think my other tube could be blocked. so hopefully i will get good news.
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faithinangels
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ectopic lost 6/4/09 at 6w 5d. EDD 1/23/10. m/c lost 5/9/10 (mothers day) at 6 w 1d. EDD 1/1/11
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Post by faithinangels on Oct 28, 2011 15:31:32 GMT -5
just wondering if you went to appointment. Hope you got good news.
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Post by kristanee on Mar 27, 2012 15:47:42 GMT -5
I never made it to the doctors appointment. They wouldn't run the test until 1 month after my surgery date. I had already concieved again! I am now 5 months pregnant with a precious little boy! The doctor says everything looks great! I just want to thank all of you who were helping me pull through all of this. I'm sorry I haven't been on here sooner, but i wasn't near any internet access for awhile. Thank you!!!!
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Post by missingisaiah on Mar 27, 2012 22:05:16 GMT -5
So glad to hear this great news! Praying all continues to go well with this pregnancy!
And, don't beat yourself up for not having breakdowns about your loss babies. We all grieve differently and at different times the pain is worse than at other times.
I hope your mother is being supportive and is happy to hear you are expecting again.
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Post by kristanee on Mar 28, 2012 10:50:07 GMT -5
Thank you! My mother is being supportive. She is glad to be having another grandchild, but she thinks the timing is off. At least she is keeping her opinions to herself now. I think she finally realizes how much she hurt me when I needed her to be there for me. I hope everything is going well with you?
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Post by missingisaiah on Apr 2, 2012 22:44:10 GMT -5
Thanks for asking about me. Things are o.k. Well, not really. But they aren't super bad.
Glad your mom is keeping her opinions to herself, as well she should!
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