The whining and crying

[monicag]

IT is so hard to take. Jesse started a new phase....(for lack of a better word). He is acting terrified of new things. Thanksgiving day was awful. We went to my brothers...he goes there once a year...and he knows everyone. He cried and whined...a fearful scared cry for over an hour. I finally took him home. I is so hard to see him like that...and the effect it has on his brother and sister. I've tried everything. Lavender spray, toys to distract him, storybooks about what we are going to do etc....
I just don't get it but I sure pray this phase doesn't last long. He loves going out to the stores etc...it seems like when we are going to someone's house or if a stranger drops by our house he gets really scared. SO hard to not be able to comfort him. I feel lilke such a failure and then I jus lose it because I'm so defeated. Anyone dealing with this? Please tell me it didn't last long (lie if you have to ...I need some hope)
Neurologically we are told he is at the age of 3 years....so is this what 3 year olds do? But cognitively he is up to age 6 or 7 spelling words like umbrella or elephant. I just don't get it. The brain is such a crazy organ....wonderful but so sensitive.

[Alaska]

As I was reading it seemed to me that maybe this is similar to separation anxiety which is a normal developmental phase. It is probably more difficult to take since physically, emotionally, neurologically, cognitively he is in different places. I bet it is a developmental phase of sorts...that will pass. I know it is so, so difficult to deal with. Probably makes you feel like you are failing in some way. But I am confident that is not the case. You are one of the most amazing women I know! Wishing I could wrap my arms around you and just infuse encouragement! Many hugs...

[Clara Hinton]

Hi, Monica!

As I read your post about Jesse's whining and crying, I couldn't help but feel that this is right where he should be if his "age" is about 3. That's quite typical behavior for a 3-year-old when visiting places that are not always "home" and a bit unfamiliar. My kids used to "act up" by whining and crying if they weren't happy where they were. They often did this when they wanted to leave and get home to their own toys and familiar surroundings. Hopefully, this is just a quick passing phase that Jesse is experiencing.

Sending big hugs your way today!

Love,
Clara

[monicag]

Thanks Clara....I needed to hear that because maybe this phase will be just that. It is just so hard when he can't talk and say "I'm scared momma"

[eg]

<3 I don't have any advice, Adam is going through a "thing" now too...guess because he had surgery and all that it's catching up to him....I'm thinking about you, and even though I don't post much think of you all often!