Back pain after first miscarriage..

[teezee]

This past Friday I had a miscarriage..it was very early in the pregnancy, only about 4-6 weeks. I wasn't even 100% sure I was pregnant when it happened, but I had an idea. I'm only 21, still in college, so while I wasn't ready for a baby, I definitely didn't want to lose one. It still seems very surreal. I guess you never think it's gonna happen to you.

But so now it's Monday, the bleeding has mostly stopped but I'm still having lower back pain. Last night it was pretty bad, but a hot water bottle helped.

So does this sound normal to you ladies, the back pain? I've done some research but it'd just be nice to hear from those who have experienced it..

Teresa

[emily]

I had a lot of cramping all over. It was essentially like labor but with a very tiny baby. But I don't think it matters how big the baby is, the uterus contracts the same. I don't know if that helps

[teezee]

It does. Thanks for replying

[Miss Sunflower]

I had extreme lower back pain two days before I started spotting. Extreme to the point of not really being able to move. I chalked it up to just being pregnant once everyone reassured me... now I think that I was probably wrong. After I started bleeding though, I had some pretty bad cramping in the hospital after she did the exam (which prompted the bleeding, until then it was just light spotting) and then that was pretty much it. I guess that doesn't help much, but I would assume that the back pain is related to the m/c.

I would call your Dr. if it doesn't get better in a day.

[teezee]

Exactly a week ago I started experiencing cramping that just didn't feel right - but I wondered, oh, maybe I'm pregnant. And then on Thursday I got some pretty bad lower back pain, which worried me, and then it was the next day I think what I'd call was the expulsion happened. An onslaught of bad cramps, then a rush of blood and clotting.

But I don't really have anymore back pain since Sunday and the bleeding has completely stopped so I'm assuming my body has "healed" itself. Now all I have is the thought in the back of my head of what could have been, *sigh*.

Thank you for replying

[emily]

How are you doing emotionally?

[sparrowsmommy]

First of all I am so sorry that you have to be here, but I am glad that you have found us. Know that you are not alone, and that we are here to listen if you ever need to cry, vent, or share. Second of all, back pain is completely normal during a miscarriage, mine was very severe. Again, I am so sorry for your loss, we all know that it hurts no matter how far along you are.

[teezee]

I'm doing okay emotionally. I think because I didn't have a confirmed yes on the pregnancy/didn't have time to get excited, etc, it doesn't feel "real." But it's hard for me to come to terms with the fact that I had a baby and now he or she is gone. If he were a boy, he'd be Gabriel Jackson. If she were a girl, she'd be Deirdre Rose. It's just that stuff I'll always wonder. It's been hard with my family...my sisters have not been supportive - rather, I've gotten lectures about it.

Thanks so much, sparrow! This site has really helped and I don't feel alone. My hormones have been "messed up" lately..I'll be on the verge of happiness, to tears, to seething anger! I guess it's from the pregnancy and my body adjusting, but my fiance sure is getting the brunt of it.

[thesunsbirthday]

Teezee, don't be too hard on yourself about your hormones! It's a hard time trying to make sense of this stuff, and it's easy to forget, too, that your body was on a fast train to change that was derailed.

Have you seen anyone about the miscarriage or bleeding (i mean have you had a physical exam, etc.)? Bodies are pretty terrific in their ability to adapt, but it sometimes feels helpful to have a medical professional you trust give you the "all clear".

i hope you feel better soon.

[justlostanangel]

{{{HUGS}}} I'm so sorry that you've had to go through the physical & emotional pain of a m/c. I'm glad the back pain, etc is better. Any time you need to "vent", feel free to share here; these ladies have helped me tremendously!!

[teezee]

Thanks I think I'm finally 100% feeling physically and hormonally better. It's just hard I guess with BOTH of my fiance's sister-in-laws being pregnant and expecting soon. The one has had a couple miscarriages before so she's just been a lifesaver in support.

I talked to my doctor on the phone but didn't go in. She said there wasn't anything they could do unless I continued to bleed. I only bled for a couple days and then that was it.

Thanks so much everyone. The support has just been so helpful from this site.

[frank29]

Yes, it is pretty common to have back pain in such situations. Better you find a chiropractor. I have been searching for expert chiropractors in Mississauga to get treatment for my dad’s joint pains. Hope to find best one soon.