Post by msmarib on Jun 8, 2010 23:16:24 GMT -5
Kyle, my oldest, is turning 10 next month. He has ADHD and clinical depression. Sometimes, parenting him is hard and makes me feel like I'm an awful parent.
At school, prior to his diagnosis, the teachers never knew how to help him. He ran away from the building and threw toys at his kindergarten teacher. He was suspended at 5 for "assault", throwing a toy. I pulled him from the school. My father put him in school in the city where he lives. He had to go to school with Kyle most days of the week just to get him through kindergarten.
First grade was better. We (again) changed schools and the staff was a bit more experienced, but I often received calls to pick him up early in lieu of suspension. Sigh. He was diagnosed in second grade, but not before the school psychologist tested and qualified him for having an emotional disturbance.
I do not know what I did to make my son emotionally disturbed! I know the ADHD is likely hereditary from his biological father and my brother seems to have ADD (in my estimation).
Kyle is very hyper if he is not medicated. He is impulsive and is often socially inappropriate. Today, at a cub scouts meeting, he was talking when the boys were receiving their awards. I shushed him. A typical kid would become silent. Kyle grew angry, rolled his eyes at me, and made bodylanguage to try to make me flinch (a bullying move). I had to pull him out of the meeting and explain why he was inappropriate and disrespectful.
I have him in counseling--first session was today. I don't think counseling is really helpful for him 1 on 1 b/c his issues are mostly with other children and authority. He needs a play group but I can't seem to find one. I also could use some effective parenting techniques so I don't get so down on myself. I love him lots but he's plenty hard.
Mari
At school, prior to his diagnosis, the teachers never knew how to help him. He ran away from the building and threw toys at his kindergarten teacher. He was suspended at 5 for "assault", throwing a toy. I pulled him from the school. My father put him in school in the city where he lives. He had to go to school with Kyle most days of the week just to get him through kindergarten.
First grade was better. We (again) changed schools and the staff was a bit more experienced, but I often received calls to pick him up early in lieu of suspension. Sigh. He was diagnosed in second grade, but not before the school psychologist tested and qualified him for having an emotional disturbance.
I do not know what I did to make my son emotionally disturbed! I know the ADHD is likely hereditary from his biological father and my brother seems to have ADD (in my estimation).
Kyle is very hyper if he is not medicated. He is impulsive and is often socially inappropriate. Today, at a cub scouts meeting, he was talking when the boys were receiving their awards. I shushed him. A typical kid would become silent. Kyle grew angry, rolled his eyes at me, and made bodylanguage to try to make me flinch (a bullying move). I had to pull him out of the meeting and explain why he was inappropriate and disrespectful.
I have him in counseling--first session was today. I don't think counseling is really helpful for him 1 on 1 b/c his issues are mostly with other children and authority. He needs a play group but I can't seem to find one. I also could use some effective parenting techniques so I don't get so down on myself. I love him lots but he's plenty hard.
Mari