When does it stop hurting

[kwatsha1]

I don't even know where to start..I lost my daughter six months ago in a car accident. It was ten days after her second birthday. It still feels so wrong to say it, MY DAUGHTER IS GONE!! I sometimes find myself wondering why it wasn't me that died, I would have happily gone in her place. She was my everything and now i have to live in a world that doesn't have her or her smile in it. SO WRONG. when will i get used to this strange new normal?? The day of the car accident I discovered that I was pregnant, the thought of a new baby to love keeps me going, but i know that one child can never replace another. its just so so so wrong. does a mother's heart ever heal or do we carry the pain with us forever and just learn to live around it?

[momtopreemieangels]

I am so very sorry that you lost your precious daughter. I think you will always love your daughter and mourn for her but as time goes on, you will have a new "normal". You will always think of her and have bad days and good days. You will smile again and laugh again and at times your heart will still hurt. I lost my son & daughter(twins) 18 years ago and while the pain lessens sometimes, it still returns. God bless you and if you ever need to talk PM me.

[Clara Hinton]

I'm so very sorry to hear of the loss of your sweet daughter. I don't know that there is an answer that we can ever give about when it stops hurting because it's so different for everyone. We each have our own way and our own timeframe for grieving.

I do know that the pain goes through ups and downs and does begin to soften in time, but I don't think that it ever totally goes away. It changes, though, over time. You will one day be able to remember your daughter without the raw pain of missing her so much. But, that takes a lot of time, so be gentle with yourself while in this very early walk of grief.

My many thoughts and prayers are with you. I hope that you will visit here often for encouragement and support.

Love,
Clara