Post by kjb96a on Apr 27, 2010 10:37:32 GMT -5
HOME STUDY QUESTIONS that I remember:
• Your Personal and family background-including upbringing, siblings, key events, and what was learned from them (they're looking to see about traumatic events in your life & if you're healthy mentally & emotionally from it now. If there's any disease or mental health problems with your or with your families. They're really just wanting to know if you're both ok mentally & will you be around until they are at least 18, etc.)
• Significant people in your lives (role models) & why
• Your Marriage and family relationships (They want to make sure you're not going to get a divorce several months or years after you adopt. Are you close to both sides of family, if not, why, etc.)
• Your Motivation to adopt (What reasons? For example, our reason is that Ryan isn't able to have bio children at this time b/c of the cancer.)
• Expectations for the child
• Feelings about infertility (if this is an issue)
• Parenting and integration of the child into the family (plans & how are you planning on going about this? What will you do if the child wants to find the birthparents someday, etc.?)
• Your family environment
• Your physical and health history
• Education, employment and finances-including insurance coverage and childcare plans if needed (FYI the state will not allow you to adopt if your child will be in daycare more than 4 hours a day b/c they want to make sure you're spending enough time with the child to know him/her & them to know you & integrate them into your family properly.)
Other questions were asked like where was the nearest medical facility in prox. to your home, how many children do we want total, would we still go through with the adoption if any pregnancies stuck, etc.
It's ALWAYS best to be upfront & honest. Our case worker told us that she almost always catches people in some sort of lie to hide something in their background, but that we were one of the first couples with absolutely no surprises. I asked her why that was and she said that most everyone has something in their past and they think that if she knows about it that she'll not recommend them for adoption. But she said that if your honest and upfront about whatever it is, it makes you look like a saint for being truthful from the beginning, than a liar if you didn't. Which is true, I think, in any circumstance!
• Your Personal and family background-including upbringing, siblings, key events, and what was learned from them (they're looking to see about traumatic events in your life & if you're healthy mentally & emotionally from it now. If there's any disease or mental health problems with your or with your families. They're really just wanting to know if you're both ok mentally & will you be around until they are at least 18, etc.)
• Significant people in your lives (role models) & why
• Your Marriage and family relationships (They want to make sure you're not going to get a divorce several months or years after you adopt. Are you close to both sides of family, if not, why, etc.)
• Your Motivation to adopt (What reasons? For example, our reason is that Ryan isn't able to have bio children at this time b/c of the cancer.)
• Expectations for the child
• Feelings about infertility (if this is an issue)
• Parenting and integration of the child into the family (plans & how are you planning on going about this? What will you do if the child wants to find the birthparents someday, etc.?)
• Your family environment
• Your physical and health history
• Education, employment and finances-including insurance coverage and childcare plans if needed (FYI the state will not allow you to adopt if your child will be in daycare more than 4 hours a day b/c they want to make sure you're spending enough time with the child to know him/her & them to know you & integrate them into your family properly.)
Other questions were asked like where was the nearest medical facility in prox. to your home, how many children do we want total, would we still go through with the adoption if any pregnancies stuck, etc.
It's ALWAYS best to be upfront & honest. Our case worker told us that she almost always catches people in some sort of lie to hide something in their background, but that we were one of the first couples with absolutely no surprises. I asked her why that was and she said that most everyone has something in their past and they think that if she knows about it that she'll not recommend them for adoption. But she said that if your honest and upfront about whatever it is, it makes you look like a saint for being truthful from the beginning, than a liar if you didn't. Which is true, I think, in any circumstance!
