Post by shannonsmummy on Mar 20, 2009 6:24:53 GMT -5
I have 5 beautiful children, 4 boys and 1 daughter, on May 25th 2006 my daughter Shannon was killed in a car accident. She was just 17yrs old.
She was a backseat passenger and wasnt wearing her seatbelt.
The driver had been drinking and taken drugs and had just assaulted a person at the local beach, no one else in the car was involved with the assault.
his girlfriend was in the front passengers seat and his friend was in the back with Shannon.
The driver knew the police were on the way for the assault and jumped back in the car and they took off at high speed, 2 kms down the road he lost control of the car and they hit 3 trees.
Shannon went between the front seats and half way out the windscreen and died instantly.
His girlfriend got the impact of the trees and broke nearly every bone in her body, she was 19 and not expected to live, thankfully she did but with alot of emotional and physical scars.
The driver was unconscious and had head injuries and not expected to live, he was 23 and died the day of Shannons funeral.
His friend in the back snapped both his legs but was not critical, he was 21.
I was at work when the accident happened, I did afternoon shifts at Auckland City Hospital as a nurse aide.
I arrived home from work at 11 30pm to find a police car in the driveway, I came inside and noticed my husband and my 15 yr old son had been crying.
I asked why they were here?, what had happened?
When the policeman told me they believed the person that had died was my daughter I said.. NO WAY!! how could they be so cruel to come around here and tell me that my daughter was dead, there is no way she can be dead, NO WAY!!
My sister went to the local funeral home to ID the body...and....IT WAS SHANNON, My Baby Girl was dead.
I felt like a ton of bricks had just been dropped on me, someone had taken a HUGE chopping knife and cut my heart into tiny little bits, Part of me died too.
It was truly the worst day of my life, children are meant to bury their parents not the other way around.
She had been ripped away from us just like that our lives changed forever at that moment, there is no going back.
I had to tell her little brothers that their sister who they LOVE very much was dead, they were 9 & 11 yrs old that broke me even more, I will never forget the look on their little faces.
I went back to work a month after her death but I couldnt cope with leaving my husband and children, I was sure something would happen to them and I would never see them again.
I just couldnt go to work any more, I needed to be at home with the people that I love.
unfortunatly I lost my mum suddenly in 2005 and I turned to my sisters for emotional support, 1 of my sisters felt that work was what I needed not to be at home and she made me feel like I was letting them all down and I was afailure, I have since distanced my self from my family as I cant cope with the remarks or even the looks of dissapointment.
I am basically home bound, I dont like to leave the house or go anywhere, I just want to be here with my family ALL the time.
I had a heart attack 3 months after Shannon died, and have been diagnosed in the last 2 months with diabetes, my health has deteriorated so much.
I dont think I will ever get over losing My Shannon, its been nearly 3 yrs and the pain is still unbearable somedays.
I feel like I live in my own little grief stricken world and cant talk to anyone about it, its very lonely, I am finding it hard wearing the I AM OK mask, I am NOT ok...FAR from it.....everyone has carryed on but im still standing still, I think this is a great site, to know that we are not alone that there are other people hurting , that someone understands what you are going through. God Bless Us ALL.
From Diane
She was a backseat passenger and wasnt wearing her seatbelt.
The driver had been drinking and taken drugs and had just assaulted a person at the local beach, no one else in the car was involved with the assault.
his girlfriend was in the front passengers seat and his friend was in the back with Shannon.
The driver knew the police were on the way for the assault and jumped back in the car and they took off at high speed, 2 kms down the road he lost control of the car and they hit 3 trees.
Shannon went between the front seats and half way out the windscreen and died instantly.
His girlfriend got the impact of the trees and broke nearly every bone in her body, she was 19 and not expected to live, thankfully she did but with alot of emotional and physical scars.
The driver was unconscious and had head injuries and not expected to live, he was 23 and died the day of Shannons funeral.
His friend in the back snapped both his legs but was not critical, he was 21.
I was at work when the accident happened, I did afternoon shifts at Auckland City Hospital as a nurse aide.
I arrived home from work at 11 30pm to find a police car in the driveway, I came inside and noticed my husband and my 15 yr old son had been crying.
I asked why they were here?, what had happened?
When the policeman told me they believed the person that had died was my daughter I said.. NO WAY!! how could they be so cruel to come around here and tell me that my daughter was dead, there is no way she can be dead, NO WAY!!
My sister went to the local funeral home to ID the body...and....IT WAS SHANNON, My Baby Girl was dead.
I felt like a ton of bricks had just been dropped on me, someone had taken a HUGE chopping knife and cut my heart into tiny little bits, Part of me died too.
It was truly the worst day of my life, children are meant to bury their parents not the other way around.
She had been ripped away from us just like that our lives changed forever at that moment, there is no going back.
I had to tell her little brothers that their sister who they LOVE very much was dead, they were 9 & 11 yrs old that broke me even more, I will never forget the look on their little faces.
I went back to work a month after her death but I couldnt cope with leaving my husband and children, I was sure something would happen to them and I would never see them again.
I just couldnt go to work any more, I needed to be at home with the people that I love.
unfortunatly I lost my mum suddenly in 2005 and I turned to my sisters for emotional support, 1 of my sisters felt that work was what I needed not to be at home and she made me feel like I was letting them all down and I was afailure, I have since distanced my self from my family as I cant cope with the remarks or even the looks of dissapointment.
I am basically home bound, I dont like to leave the house or go anywhere, I just want to be here with my family ALL the time.
I had a heart attack 3 months after Shannon died, and have been diagnosed in the last 2 months with diabetes, my health has deteriorated so much.
I dont think I will ever get over losing My Shannon, its been nearly 3 yrs and the pain is still unbearable somedays.
I feel like I live in my own little grief stricken world and cant talk to anyone about it, its very lonely, I am finding it hard wearing the I AM OK mask, I am NOT ok...FAR from it.....everyone has carryed on but im still standing still, I think this is a great site, to know that we are not alone that there are other people hurting , that someone understands what you are going through. God Bless Us ALL.
From Diane