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Post by outtacontrol on Feb 29, 2008 11:36:00 GMT -5
OK frist off i want to say that my family has lost a 4 year old little girl's was my girlfriends niece. she died about 2weeks ago, i did not know her very well as she and her family lives far from rest of us. as sad as this is thats not why im writing. about 5 years ago, my girl friend and i lossed our first pregnancy, and i remember being upset. and thought that i had dealt with it and was fine, but now i find myself crying in the bathroom so no one will know. we have a 3 year old son, he is our world. he and the rest of my family never knew about the first pregnancy, if i were to go to my girlfriend, i think that i would just be bring back pain that she dose not need right now. i dont understand why all this sadness has come back. im sure it has something to do with our resent loss. and that i have had a son for the last 3 years and have begain to see thing as a father. and not as a mad 17 year old with a lot to prove or thought that i did. anyone out there that have some advice, please let me know. thanks
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Post by missingisaiah on Mar 3, 2008 11:06:43 GMT -5
I would let your gf know how you feel. She might be missing that baby too and would appreciate knowing she isn't alone. Allow yourself time to grieve. Triggers can come out of seemingly nowhere and cause the pain to be just as strong as it was in the beginning. Find someone to talk to, be it in a support group, a close friend, a gf. Perhaps there is a family member with whom you are very close. As your gf if you can share the loss with that person.
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Post by heidi on Mar 3, 2008 20:07:12 GMT -5
I also think you should talk to your girlfriend about how you are feeling. She's most likely missing your first baby too. I'm so sorry you're hurting.
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Post by pringsmom on Mar 8, 2008 8:25:53 GMT -5
hugs to you so sorry,yes talk to your gf..
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