i dont know how to deal with this

[outtacontrol]

OK frist off i want to say that my family has lost a 4 year old little girl's was my girlfriends niece. she died about 2weeks ago, i did not know her very well as she and her family lives far from rest of us. as sad as this is thats not why im writing. about 5 years ago, my girl friend and i lossed our first pregnancy, and i remember being upset. and thought that i had dealt with it and was fine, but now i find myself crying in the bathroom so no one will know. we have a 3 year old son, he is our world. he and the rest of my family never knew about the first pregnancy, if i were to go to my girlfriend, i think that i would just be bring back pain that she dose not need right now. i dont understand why all this sadness has come back. im sure it has something to do with our resent loss. and that i have had a son for the last 3 years and have begain to see thing as a father. and not as a mad 17 year old with a lot to prove or thought that i did. anyone out there that have some advice, please let me know.
thanks

[darioandamanda]

((((((((((hugs))))))))))) I am sorry for your loss. I think you should talk with your girlfriend. I wish my husband would show his feelings more or talk to me more about it. I to run to the bathroom and cry when I think about it and it is still really new to me.