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Corinne
Sept 19, 2006 10:15:40 GMT -5
Post by my4boys on Sept 19, 2006 10:15:40 GMT -5
Stacy, I wanted to jump in here real quick. As I posted before, I have a sister that has had to leave her daughter in the hospital, just as Corrine did. That said, I also have had the same thoughts/feelings as you, because in reality, SOME parents could stay with their children. I know, and I am sure Corrine knows, that you didnt mean any harm by your post. There is a big difference in a child staying over night in the hospital for the 1st time, (or 2nd, etc) for an illness, and then having a child with major disabilities being hospitalized for weeks at a time. Anyway, dont be too hard on yourself!!! Blessings~ wendy
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Corinne
Sept 19, 2006 13:03:41 GMT -5
Post by Corinne on Sept 19, 2006 13:03:41 GMT -5
Hey Ladies
No offence taking. I didn't mean to make it sound harsh, just offering a different perspective of sorts. I too have seen many children dropped off and forgten.
I'll take it a bit further. When we made the most difficult decision for Tim to live in a nursing home, it was only because we were still his legal guardians and that all decisions were made by us. We had that choice. We could have signed him over to the state, but I would never have done that. There were many children that lived there that were signed over. That I could never undersand. This was a pediactric nursing home, 26 children total. They schedule support groups and parties for every occasion. Once a month there was some sort of gathering for the parents. I don't think we ever missed one. There were many thought who had no family there for them even at Christmas.
I guess one thing I have learned through my travels with Tim is that there are a lot of difficult different situations out there. Many are heartbreaking. One child that came there was the result of a sever beating by their parent.
It was hard on all of us including Amanda and David. They learned and saw a lot more than most children their age. We became family to many of the other children, they stole our hearts, then we grieved when they died.
I do not have any regrets with Tim's life. I know I did what was best for him and my family. I firmly believe he would have left us much sooner had he not gone to the nursing home. He was protected from most of the germs in public and was sick far fewer times than before he went there. It also gave us quality time with him while the nurses did all the work!
Anyway........thank you, really, I am not offended ;D
Corinne
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