Secondary infertility

[pams]

Does anyone else here have secondary infertility?

I find it isn't as much of an "issue" in the medical world. You can look at my siggy and see how many m/c and how long we have been trying,(I stopped counting because it gets depressing after awhile) and can't seem to carry a baby to term, but the docs don't think there is an issue or that any additional testing needs to be done. I'll be 36 this year and time is ticking away.

She said since it was a chromsone issue there is nothing they could do anyhow.

Just wonering if anyone else is having problems either getting or staying pregnant after having had healthy children?

It is so frustrating and noone understands unless they have walked in our shoes.

I talk to people in real life about wanting more children and they look at me like I've got 3 heads.

And I recently saw this quote that says, "Stress doesn't cause infertility, infertility causes stress."

[lovemymonkeys]

I was diagnosed with "Unexplained Secondary Infertility" when we were TTC for #2.

After 6 years of ttc, fertility treatments, procedures, drugs and 4 unsuccessful IUI's we were told that we would never have another biological child. The specialist told us that IVF was our ONLY answer and we needed to decide what we were going to do. After lots of thinking & prayers, we decided to start looking into adoption...found a wonderful agency & amazing counselor. After about 3 months, I started feeling sick and really tired. I thought it was the time change (end of October, early November) and didn't even think there was a possibility I could be pregnant. After much coaxing from my OB, I finally tested and I couldn't believe it!!! I WAS PREGNANT!! I had very low progesterone so they put me on shots right away, but other than that I was most definitely pregnant. Our daughter Natalie was born in July of 2003 and she is such a little miracle.

When we started TTC for #3, we knew our chances were very slim for conceiving again. I truly believed that Natalie was a once in a lifetime miracle. Well, after only 5 months we conceived again...only to lose that baby to an early miscarriage. It did take another 19 months, but we are expecting another miracle right now and he has been a little fighter. It's been a crazy pregnancy but it will be worth it once he's here!!

I guess I'm sharing my story with you to show that miracles DO happen!! After being told we could never have another child, I would love to call that doctor back in Illinois & say "Oh yeah!!".

Secondary infertility is very frustrating and I can really feel your pain. I have most likely experienced some of the same emotions that you have or will be feeling. If you ever need to just vent, feel free to PM me...I really do understand. I know what you mean about people looking at you like you have 3 heads!! Some people actually had the nerve to tell me "At least you have one, don't you appreciate him? " DUH!!! Of course, I appreciate him!! That's why I want more! Anyway, if you need anything let me know.

Hugs,
Audra

[teacher4]

I was classified as having secondary infertility...it is defined as the inability to carry another child after having previous child/ren. I could get pg...but not carry them to term. So strange, my oldest son was an easy pg...but we did succeed in having a healthy little baby last year.
GL
Dominique

[wloublue]

We had three uneventful pgs w/ healthy babies before our loss and then inability to get pg. For us, it has been a medical problem w/ dh.

So far, Clomid, three IUIs, plus a whole slew of tests. After our second trimester loss, our dr was perfectly willing to run tests on me and baby. No answers, which is good and bad news.

Yes, we do appreciate our children, they only make us want to have another child even more. No, one child cannot replace another Actually, people stopped asking a long time ago and only a few very supportive friends know we are still hoping.

Good luck sweetie.

[innocencelost]

Our son's s/b was a cord accident; there was nothing wrong with the PREGNANCY. Although my cycles and hormones were/are PERFECT, both an OB and then a RE was convinced I was o'ing duds so in 18 months I did 7 rounds of Clomid and/or Repronex. When we moved out of state (and got away from Kaiser Insurance), DH had a more indepth s/a done. The issue has been with him all along! He's not sterile but subfertile and I'm sure all the overstimming of my now 38 year old ovaries didn't help (FSH went from 6.6 to 9.5 in 9 months).

I would implore anyone who's been relegated to "unexplained IF" to have the DH checked again if the woman's tests are perfect. Evidently the S/a DH had is only used for the IVF screen (and it makes IVF our only option but not for the reason the old RE said)

[pams]

Thank you all for your replies! Hearing your stories helps me alot.

[2tots2teens]

Like many others, I had two fairly easy and uncomplicated pgs. Then when it was time to try for #3... problems. I tried Clomid and IUI and the Dr finally concluded my only option was IVF, but (due to the expense) recommended we be grateful for the two we had. About 5 years after "giving up" we flew to France with our kids to visit my parents. I hardly slept the whole way home and then was exhausted nonstop for days afterward. I figured I had bad jetlag and couldn't figure out why everyone was over it but me. AF was also late, but I figured it was the stress of the travel making it late. Someone finally suggested that I could be pg... it honestly hadn't occurred to me. But I was!!! She is now 2 and the joy of our family! It did get my hopes up that we could have MORE children... but the next two pgs have ended in m/c. I too will be 36 this year and am getting nervous that the end of the road is nearing sooner than I want!! Don't give up hope yet, you never know what wonderful surprises will come when least expected!!

Best wishes,
Wendy

[innocencelost]

wendytheking said:

Like many others, I had two fairly easy and uncomplicated pgs. Then when it was time to try for #3... problems. I tried Clomid and IUI and the Dr finally concluded my only option was IVF, but (due to the expense) recommended we be grateful for the two we had.

This seems to have happened a lot. Why have those of us who've had uneventful TTC and pregnancies been relegated to the IVF diagnosis?! In my case my old RE didn't do a good enough SA on DH and made me do the Clomid/Repronex/IUI when I had no hormone or ovulatory issues. He just told me I was old and continued to blame my age when it didn't work. Turns out DH has a very high abnormal sperm count and IVF is the only solution, but for a different reason.