tubal reversal vs IVF???

[Jaleel's Mommy]

I lost my son Jaleel 8 months ago to SIDS I had a tubl after they delivered him by planned c/s. I was happy with my tubal & then at just shy of a month old I woke up & Jaleel was unresponsive and he never woke up . I am mixed because I don't want another baby I feel like it would be trying to replace my son even though I know HE COULD NEVER EVER be replaced!!!! but secretly, I want another baby soo bad and so many of my friend's & co-workers are pregnant which make it even harder. my dh & I are seperated due to losing our son, even though I wish we were still togeher & had become stronger not weaker & distant when I had my pp appt with my ob he sdaid IVF would be better & a higher sucess rate and less tedious than a tubal reversal. I was wondering if anyone had IVF or a tubal reversal and which is better? Which are the better sucesses. A reversal would be better money wise it's about 6 thousand less than IVF from what I have researched and i'm afraid if I had IVF & it didn't take that would be 12,000 down the drain. I want to try to TTC within 2-3 years. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!!!

[innocencelost]

You risk the tubal not working and then if it does, you risk a higher chance of ectopic pregnancy because of the tube was compromised by the tubal. How old are you? If you are under 35, you probably have a good chance with IVF because you're young and all the girly parts were working well before your TL. Does that make sense? If you are under 37, there is one place that offers a multiple IVF financing (just had my IVF class today). I am dead tired else I'd dig through my pile o information to find it. It might be www.arcfertility.com.

I am so sorry Jaleel's passing has driven you and DH apart.

[islandlady]

First, I'm very sorry for your loss *HUG*

Ok, now I have personal experience with both of your concerns

I had a TL (tubal ligation) after the birth of my 2nd son, like you a scheduled C-section. I too thought I was done, but also in a bad marriage

Fast forward....out of the bad marriage, and married again to the most wonderful man ever ;D who didn't have any children of his own....yet

First we went to see an RE, we went with very specific questions about TR (tubal reversal) and IVF, which was our better option? She said that because of my age (42 at the time) that IVF was the better choice, I could have the baby w/dh and still have BC in tact....sounded great.

In Feb of 05 I went thru my first and so far only IVF cycle, and $18,000 later, have no baby

In April after doing much research, I went Dr. Berger in NC, who does TR, he is the absolute best! I traveled from WA and he has a map in his office with pins from all the world!

Now, to date, I don't have a baby yet.....but I have been PG twice, but sadly I've MC'd but I don't think it really has anything to with anything but my age and the fact that like they say, if you are TTC you are so in tune with your body that you practically know the second your body is PG....most women don't realize they are PG till they are like 5-6wks along, we know the day of LOL...and alot of women MC and don't even know they were PG, they just think it was a late cycle

So, anyhoo, I have done both of your options, feel free to contact me with any questions you might have

take care, Elaine