Mothers Day for a infertile friend

[winter]

I have a question for you ladies. I have a friend who has been infertile for some time and was thinking of getting her a mothers day card and saying from her future shildren. I just want her to know someone is thinking of her on this hard day and is aware of her struggles, but would it be insensitive?

[dawnn]

hmmmm....might be a little hard for her to take. I was infertile for 13 years and Mother's day was always very difficult for me. I usually liked to spend time alone (after church service) with dh...more of a private time. I had a secret sister from church one time that gave me a gift of a baby's Bible, a stuffed lamb and a little stuffed star with a note of encouragement that she was praying and believing for me to see my prayers answered...however, it was given on a day other than Mother's day.

I appreciate you trying to bless your friend. I can only tell you where I was at during those very difficult years. Sometimes prayer and then a card of encouragement to let her know that you're praying for her (on any other day than Mother's day) might be easier for her to receive.

My dh used to pastor and we'd always celebrate "daughters" on Mother's day because there were several women in our church that suffered with infertility...amazing how you find that out when you are in the same boat. Also, I've heard of some women being recognized for being "spiritual moms" even if they were not physically moms.

Again, thank you for thinking of your friend on Mother's day. That's really special.

[heidi]

I agree with Dawn. I think that would be too hard to take. Let her know you're there for her. Perhaps take her out to lunch?

Heidi

[tarak]

I was reading through this post and thought I'd add my two cents in even though mothers day was months ago! I usually get my girlfriend (who has struggled with if for years) a mothers day card thanking her for being like a mother to my kids. We have a closer relationship than most sisters I know, so this is appropriate for us.