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Post by austinsmommy02 on Nov 21, 2005 11:39:10 GMT -5
Hi everyone, its been three years since my little guy grew wings, and around xmas time we doo a lot to remember him. For example we hang a stocking eith his name on it with all of our stockings. This xmas a lot of our family parties will be at our house, and there will be a lot of younsters around. When they ask me why i have 4 stockings up ther enstead of three, what do i say, do i say anything, is it my place to explain to them or do i just say ask ur mommy..lol..im totally stuck on this...please help
Missy, mommy to Austin Cole, stillborn at 32 weeks due to a blood clot on september8,2002
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Post by hunterandbethsmom on Nov 21, 2005 11:46:08 GMT -5
Missy,
I think that putting up a stocking for Austin is wonderful...and it is a wonderful way to remember your little angel.
In my opinion, the kids will understand more than adults would. Just tell them that Austin's stocking is there to remember him....and that he is not here, he is in heaven. I am sure they will understand. Kids understand and think about these things more than we imagine. I have a 5 year old, and you should hear her insight on death...it is amazing.
I am sure everything will work out fine.
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Shar
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Post by Shar on Nov 21, 2005 17:28:02 GMT -5
Missy, I too would put up you stocking for Austin... although if it were MY house and my 'family' no one would notice. Last year was our first without MarieAnne and even though I hung her stocking up in front of everyone, and then later put an envelope inside (with a letter I had written to her) plus a small teddy bear... no one really noticed. If they did, no one said anything to me. I'm not sure how else to respond. I hope that your family is sensitive enough to your situation to NOT make it uncomfortable. I too belive, like Joy, that the younger the kids are, the more apt they're gonna understand that Austin is in Heaven. Blessings for the holidays... and I think you're brave for having so many people expected to 'drop' by.   MarieAnne Elizabeth ~18 August 2004~ Born 5:20 am Died 6:40 am Born at 20weeks 5 days  Born too early, gone to fast, But our love is strong, And our memories will last.     |
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Post by ladylost on Nov 22, 2005 0:27:58 GMT -5
Missy,
I think you should be asking yourself what would you feel the most comfortable saying? Let's face it kids ask questions. I think you should concentrate on what you feel would be the best way to explain. It might not be the same for every child that asks you. If you decide to say nothing(or send them to their parents to ask) how will YOU feel afterwards? Follow your heart.
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Post by george1995 on Nov 22, 2005 2:27:19 GMT -5
Oh Missy!
What a lovely idea! I have to say I agree with Joy, children are very accepting of death.....it's more black and white ofr them. If you explain in a way you feel comfortable, well a child tends to accept the explination without all the hang ups and baggage that adults carry.
Sending you love and peace for over the holiday time (((((((HUG)))))))
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Post by hunterandbethsmom on Nov 22, 2005 8:10:39 GMT -5
I have never had so many people agree with me! Lol...
I am glad to know that others don't think that letting siblings "know" their angel sisters and brothers isn't wrong. I haven't put a stocking up for my angels, but this year, I think I might.
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