madisen and jacks mommy
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Madisen and Peyton at Jacks grave having a good time decorating for Christmas!!!
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Post by madisen and jacks mommy on Nov 8, 2005 18:32:37 GMT -5
As I said in my other thread dd is turning for tomorrow and I thought it would be nice to have dh family on Thursday for dinner and cake and ice cream. Well my dh sil just had a baby a month and a half ago and it is so hard to be around her. I thought it would be no big deal cause she never comes to family things cause they live out of town but the one thing she decides to come to is dd party. I had ask dh if she would mind not coming just to make the day easier on me because it is hard enough on me anyways with Jack not being here. She had the nerve to call back and say that they are not part of our family anymore. It hurt so bad that she could be this way, they lost a baby m/c right when I got pg with Jack and she wanted nothing to do with me because I was pg and she wasn't. I thought she would have a little compassion towards us but I was wrong.
I feel so bad for dh because he is caught in the middle me and his family. It is so frustrating that his family has no idea what we are going through let alone they have no compassion for either of us.
If you have gotten this far Thank You.
Pray that I can get through this week and weekend.
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Post by hunterandbethsmom on Nov 8, 2005 19:32:19 GMT -5
Ann,
I am so sorry that you sil is being so insensitive. After going through this herself, she should understand. Surely to goodness there is some way that you all can work this out. I would hate to think that she would just write you all off just because you asked her to do something as a favor, just to make you feel a little easier.
I will be praying that something good will happen from this, and I hope you have a peaceful weekend.
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Post by missujailyn on Nov 8, 2005 21:32:41 GMT -5
i hear ya!!! the same with my SIL and my MIL. i realize that they shouldn't have to hide their feelings of how happy they are with my nephew but, for once, i wish they would think of me. I guess it is because they don't really know how to react around me but gushing over my nephew every chance they get definatley does not help.
I'm sorry our families are dumb...what can i say," you can pick your friends, but not your relatives"
((hug))
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Post by mypreciousashley on Nov 9, 2005 4:27:44 GMT -5
(((((Anna))))
I am still trying to understand the reactions of others but I am suprised at the reaction in this. I would think also that she would understand. Know that I think what you did was not a bad thing. You dont have to be responsible for her emotions. she is spewing and I dont know if she will get past it but know that you had to do what you needed to do for your own emotional health and that is important. Dont feel guilty for your needs.
love you in christ
Debbie
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kaha
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Post by kaha on Nov 9, 2005 4:56:27 GMT -5
you know what, this is just awful  how could she! Maybe she thinks that if you are pg again it is all OK now as many people tend to think. One baby lost, another baby on its way - everything should be all right. Which is such a bu*lsh*t. You will always miss your sweet little star jumper, how cruel that some people (I dread to think, most people) do not get it and do not try to help when they can. I hate it. You will be in my prayers, I hope so much that you will get through this difficult time (((((((hugs)))))))) |
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Post by mommy2five on Nov 9, 2005 10:13:31 GMT -5
((((((((((hugs))))))))))
I am sorry that your sil is being so insensitive. Some people still don't get it, even if they have had a loss. I'm sorry she is making a difficult time for you even worse.
~Take Care~
Christina
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Post by Mommy of Lydia and Mary on Nov 9, 2005 15:25:05 GMT -5
Hey Ann, Sweetie, I'm so sorry for what you're having to go through. Yes, it is amazing how people act. Compassion and respect...some just don't get it. They believe it's all 'about them'. I pray that you have a peaceful, joyous, and special birthday for Madisen. Happy Birthday Madisen! I'm sure Jack, Mary, and all the baby angels are throwing Madisen a party in Heaven  . Take care, Tara |
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madisen and jacks mommy
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Madisen and Peyton at Jacks grave having a good time decorating for Christmas!!!
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Post by madisen and jacks mommy on Nov 9, 2005 16:17:02 GMT -5
I want to Thank all you ladies for all the support, today is going well my dd is loving her birthday. I hope tomorrow goes smooth as well (keep fingers crossed).
Tara- I am so glad to see you on here I missed you in group the last few meetings, Last meeting was our last. I hope you and bill and lydia all are doing well.
THANK YOU AGAIN LADIES LOVE YA!!!!!
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how could she! Maybe she thinks that if you are pg again it is all OK now as many people tend to think. One baby lost, another baby on its way - everything should be all right. Which is such a bu*lsh*t. You will always miss your sweet little star jumper, how cruel that some people (I dread to think, most people) do not get it and do not try to help when they can. I hate it.
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