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Post by kaydensmommy on Nov 3, 2005 18:56:38 GMT -5
My MIL called me a lil bit ago to update me on a set of twin boys that were born prematurely. She was talking about them and I asked what their names were. My mil said Karson and then hesitated and said Kayden William (my angels name). It took my breath away when she said that. Now I have been stewing about this all afternoon. Why in the world would someone my dh and I know very well name their little boy the exact same name of our baby that died? Even if they had just used either Kayden or William I dont think I would be so bothered. I know there are probably thousands of little boys out there with his name but no one I know. I am not sure how they spelled his name (maybe I better not ask) Do you think I have a right to be bothered or am I just over reacting?
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Post by sara on Nov 3, 2005 19:01:41 GMT -5
You have EVERY right to be bothered.
My Brother and SIL were going to use Zachary for their son's name. I would have totally freaked on them.
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Post by momtoWill on Nov 3, 2005 19:40:02 GMT -5
Ashley, That would bother me if someone were to name their child the exact same name. I think that they should have come to you for your thoughts on it first. If it bothered you, then they should have found an alternative IMHO. I would have such a hard time around a child with Will's name, especially in the situation you describe. Sorry you're having to deal with this. I don't blame you for being upset.
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Post by nikkimount on Nov 3, 2005 20:41:56 GMT -5
You must be stronger than me b/c I would never talk to them again AFTER throwing a T-TOTAL FIT! -Nikki
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Post by my2angels on Nov 3, 2005 20:42:18 GMT -5
I totally don't blame you for being about about this...I would be ticked right off as well.
I am waiting to hear to the news of a birth to a baby girl named Quinn...I know of several insensitive girls that would probably go ahead and do the same thing.
UGH..the nerve of people.
HUGS, Cass
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Post by Buckeye on Nov 4, 2005 8:09:16 GMT -5
To give them the benefit of the doubt, though it does increase their "just don't get it" factor -- they may have thought they were doing something nice. Or, depending how well they know you, they may have actually not remembered what you named your son -- I know it sounds hard to believe, but I did have someone (who I had coffee with almost every week) ask me once, "What did you name your baby -- the one that died?" It just stinks all the way around -- sorry you have to go through this.
Jen
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Post by Kayla's Mommy on Nov 4, 2005 18:47:08 GMT -5
That would have upset me. I get upset at work when parents, who I do not know, name their baby Kayla. I could only imagine if someone close to me used her name. I would be very upset. (((Hugs)))
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Post by mypreciousashley on Nov 5, 2005 5:36:21 GMT -5
I am so knew with loosing a baby I dont know how I would feel. Now if it was family a member I may be bothered but not sure. My emotions on all this seem so knew
I am sorry it bothered you. I am thinking about you
Debbie
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Post by walkersmommy on Nov 5, 2005 22:19:55 GMT -5
I couldnt imagine..I would be furious..We went through a similar situation..I and a friend of mines gf were pg at the same time and due on the same day, with boys. We had our son at 24 weeks, and named him Walker Scott (Walker is my dh's last name, we werent married at the time) and low and behold a few months later they named there little boy Keegan (the gf's last name) I was sooooooooooooooo upset. They thought it was a compliment that they liked our idea, i found it disrespectful
I realize it wasnt the same name but they stole our idea, and I was heart broken and mad that they brought home a baby and I didnt
So I understand and think you have every right to be upset!!!!
Im sorry this has happened to you
Jessica
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Post by sarahsmom on Nov 6, 2005 0:03:57 GMT -5
Ashley, I think it's unanimous here that you have every right to be upset with them! I know there's not much you can do about it now, but I'd consider letting them know how much it hurt you. Your feelings are very justified and normal. Lots of (((HUGS))) coming your way. Susan
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Post by raven on Nov 6, 2005 4:06:23 GMT -5
I don't blame you at all for being bothered about it, i know i would be too, very in fact.. You and your dh feeling's don't seem to have been taken into consideration. Maybe they should of asked you first if it was ok, i know if it was me i would ask, even then though i doubt very much i would use it or even think of using the same name for fear of upsetting anyone. Im so sorry, it must be hard, maybe you could speak to her about it, maybe there is some good reason as to why they picked the name of your little boy for their own? Even so they should of thought first about how hard it will be for you and your dh. Rebecca x
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Post by hunterandbethsmom on Nov 8, 2005 6:32:50 GMT -5
I would have been upset too....nothing wrong there! I had several people have babies and name them Hunter, after we lost our son. And Elizabeth is a common name, so I have been lucky thus far not to have seen that name re-used by anyone I know. I am sure it will happen though. I am sorry you are having to deal with this...it is hard.
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