Sign or coincidence

[Corinne]

Tim has been gone for 4 years now. Since he was disabled and never in the public school system, we very seldom got mail for him. This past week, the 4th anniversary of his death, there have been 3 mailings to him. Now, bear with me on this story.

Many of you know the problems with my in-laws. They live next door, we have not spoken for nearly 2 years. They do not acknowledge Amanda or David anymore either. I will always acknowledge the love Tim & my mil had for each other. He cherished her and laughed every time she came in his room. Now for the weird part.

As I said they live next door. Their house # is 131, mine is 133. The 3 mailings that have come ALL were addressed too TIMMY at 131....... My MIL always called him "Timmy" I find it odd that they are addressed this way and not to Timothy, usually full names are used.

My MIL has been sneaking over to deliver them to us. Yes, I saw her do it.

So, what do you think? Is Tim trying to giver her a sign about this family situation??

[tess]

I know I'm not from this board -- but I saw your post and wanted to share a thought:

A coincidence is just a sign gone un-noticed.

If it were me, I'd take it as a sign about the family situation. I'm not sure it is a sign for your MIL, or all of you -- but I'd say write her a little letter, thank her for bringing Timmy's letters to you. And softly remind her of what their time together meant to them both. Then sneak over and place it in HER mail box -- make sure it is addressed to her the way she was refered to by/to Tim. It will be her move next -- what she chooses to do with it is up to her. You'll know you've done what you can to heed this sign from Tim.

Hugs to you -- (and please don't take offense to my offering advice / support -- I may never have lost an older child, but I have lost family members who meant a lot to me, and have seen what a loss of a child -- especially a loss of a special needs child -- can do to a family).

Again -- HUGS to you..
~tess~

[judiann]

I'm really curious as to what kind of mail it is???

It is weird that she would keep Amanda's flowers, not speak to you for 2 yrs, but sneak over to deliver mail for Tim.........maybe that soft spot in her heart for "her Timmy" is bigger than you thought? Her way of saying she remembers too?

A sign, coincidence, a simple act of kindness {don't fall down....I remember your in-laws}.....who knows??

Personally, I'd leave it be......see what happens next.
BTW.....hows your shoulder doing??

Love,
judiann

[pamela]

wow Corrine,

This is all kind of "weird" isn't it....

I too wonder why she would "sneak" over to deliver this mail, especially since she knows Tim is not going to recieve it. I have to wonder what her motive is.

I would wonder as you are if this was a sign also, as it all doesn't seem to much sense in any other way. Maybe MIL's heart is softening a little bit?

Would she just freak if the next time she delivers mail you step out and Thank her?

Hope your feeling better these days. How are all the animals doing???

LOve pam

[Corinne]

Tess, of course I do not take offense to you posting here. I like what you say that a coincidence is a sign. As far as writing her a letter, not sure I would do that now. I did writer to her once, she did not reply. BTW, congrats on your pregnancy, you must be so excited. And, I do sneak around on the other boards too!

Judiann, the mail was basically junk mail. One for a credit card, one for a mortgage and the other was from the Salvation Army asking him for a donation. My shoulder is still "there" ;D still doing my exercises. I know I have made a lot of progress in 5 weeks, but it still hurts and I get frustrated with what I cant do. Thanks for asking.

Pam, I found it odd to. Especially since it was obviously junk mail. Anything to do with Tim would have an effect on her. She loved him and would do anything for him. Remember, they were angry with us for allowing Tim to die.