Hiall,back after long time

[montanabkc]

Hi all,I posted so long ago you probably don't remember me.I got the courage to post just before everything crashed here.Just one question. Does anyone still feel so lost and alone after 4 yrs of losing their child, or will I be like this forever?Nobody else seems to understand that I still grieve the loss of my son.I viewed so many pics of all your kids and just cried knowing how much you miss them.God bless you all,Montana

[pamela]

Hi Montana,

Welcome to Sg. I think i actually responded to your post then the boards crashed and it was gone.

I am sorry for the loss of your son.

My son Michael died 3 years. 5 months and 6 days ago. I still miss him terribly each and every day.

Most days/weeks I do the new "ok" but there are times when I will admit I am totally overwhelmed wondering how I am going to go on..but I do...we all do.

I know those first weeks/months of grief were terrible, but I find now what hurts the worst is the missing, and the more time that goes by the more the missing hurts. Just that much longer since we have seen our children.

I would love to hear more about your son. I hope that in time you will feel comfortable posting your story. grief knows no time table. There are always those triggers waiting to suck us in.

Take care Montana, you certainly after 4 years should still be missing your precious son, don't feel guilty.

Pam

[missingjason]

Hi Montana, Its only been nearly 2 for me, but I cant even imagine going 4 or more without my son. No siree not me, don't think I'm going to like it one bit.

[heartsore]

Montana - Sadly I think that we'll miss our children until we take our last breath. I saw Robert Shapiro on the Larry King show last night. His 24-year-old son, Brent, died a month ago of a drug overdose. I feel so sad each time I see a newly bereaved parent because I know you can only heal so much. I was such a "good" griever trying to do everything right early on - grief therapy, Compassionate Friends, read tons of book on losing a child, but after nearly three years, I realize that we are forever changed and that we learn to co-exisit with our sorrow. There is a hole left in our hearts - a part of us dies when we lose our children. Margot

[joan]

I am into my fourth year without my Gordie and still have some really painful times as well as ongoing missing him. I think I always will.

Sorry about your loss.

Blessings

Joan

[Corinne]

It will be 4 years on Friday since Tim died. Still not a day or minute goes by without me missing him

[MomofBuilder]

We are nearing the first anniversary of Aaron's death and I am having a terrible time...feeling like it is all happening over again. The grief feels fresh and new again.....
Carol