Sherrie, Cliff's Mom

[pamela]

Dear Sherrie,

Welcome to SG. I am so glad that you are here and have found us so soon after your loss.

I am very, very sorry for the loss of your son Cliff. I know right now your head is spinning, nothing makes sense. Most of our children died quickly and its so hard to even believe that they could be gone when we had just talked to them.

Sherrie,

WE all have regrets, we all wished we had done things differently, our job was to care for and protect our children, somehow its hard not to feel we failed them, though there is nothing any of us could have done, because if there was...we would have done it.

Will you go back to driving your truck and be back on the road? Unfortunately many of us are forced to go back to our "normal" lives, even though they stopped being normal the day our child died.

I hope that you can continue to come here for some support. You may have already found out that others don't share our grief unless they to have experienced it.

Take care of yourself, I am sorry that you have to go through this.

pam

[Corinne]

{{{{{{{{{{Sherie}}}}}}}}}

A very sad welcome to you here at silent grief. I am so sorry for the loss of your son Cliff. As Pamela says, so many of us beat ourselves with the what if's, there is just no way to know, Sherie. Please do not hold yourself responsable. You cared for Cliff for many years and he knows how much he is loved.

Your grief is so new, you need to allow yourself time to heal. It is a longhard journey but we are here for you. Tak care of yourself.

Corinne

[joan]

((((Sherrie))))

So sorry you have reason to be here, but glad you have found support so early. It really helps as others don't understand the length and depth of our grief.

Take care of yourself as best you can - sleep is often hard to get. Medications can help any depression and lack of sleep if you are comfortable taking them.

Many have found that their "address book" changes as some "friends" are unable to be supportive, and others, we really didn't know before are supportive.

Do what is good for you to survive - life will never be the same again.

Blessings

[missingjason]

Sherrie, A sad welcome from me too
I know you will find comfort here from this group of kind caring people. I have learned we can't go on without each other.

[MomofBuilder]

Welcome, Sherri,
I am so sorry that you lost your dear son, Cliff. I hope that you will find comfort here as you cope with your grief. It has been 11 months since my son died. He was healthy and still his heart stopped suddenly. His wife was right in his arms and nothing was wrong. Then he stopped breathing. She gave him cpr until paramedics came and they worked on him desperately. He was 30 and no know cause for him to develop arrythmia and sudden cardiac arrest. His wife was right there and she could not save him. There are things we have no control over. I hope you will learn to not blame yourself so much. I think every one of us does that at times but we really do the best we can and would give our lives for our children.

Hugs
Carol