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Post by MomofBuilder on Nov 3, 2005 18:09:30 GMT -5
I have always been a person to cope with life by writing and have been almost unable to write about Aaron except to online friends. I went to NC to visit my daughter and her family last weekend. I took a couple of extra days so I could go out for trick-or-treat with my little grandson. What a delight. Anyway I had a 3-hr layover at the airport in Chicago and I managed to find a quiet spot ...amazingly ...to write. It was a room tucked away behind a bakery. It was part of the bakery but I never knew it was there. I ate lunch and started to write. I wrote page after page TO Aaron. One of the things I told him was that if I had known that Nov. 14 was the last time I would see him alive I would have asked for a hug. He was not one to give hugs a lot as an adult...except to his wife....so I didn't ask often. I wrote about wishing I had a hug to remember and to "feel". At that very moment I became aware of music playing that I had not heard. The words I heard right at that moment were, "In the Arms of an Angel.." I decided that I would claim that as a message from Aaron...a hug from Heaven. I think of him as being with the angels and with the Lord but don't think of him as an angel. Nevertheless this touched my heart and I wanted to share it with you.
Carol
Aaron 3/7/74-11/24/04
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Post by Corinne on Nov 4, 2005 9:06:57 GMT -5
{{{{{{{{{ Carol}}}}}}}}}} Thanks for sharing that story. I do believe that our children send us signs. That certainly was yours  |
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Post by Dougsmom on Nov 4, 2005 11:22:59 GMT -5
Carol,
I do believe music is a way for us to hear messages about our grief.
Doug died the beginning of December and having a younger son DH and I knew we had to go on with Christmas. So DH went out shopping, though was having a very hard time focusing on what was in the stores. In was in a music store and heard the last song on Josh Grobin's second CD, which was Christmasy. So he asked the clerk what was playing and then bought the CD. In his car he played it right away. When "Where you are" came on he pulled over to the side of the road and when it was over called me in tears. He felt the music was speaking to him, that it was a message from Doug telling him he was OK. It was a eye opening, not to mention heart opening experience for my husband. His dealing with grief became something we could all share as a family rather than alone.
This has happen several times since to all three of us. And it brings a little smile to our face as we realise Doug is with us and sharing the moment.
Leslie
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Post by missingjason on Nov 4, 2005 17:07:26 GMT -5
A hug from heaven indeed, what a lucky lady you are. I truly believe this story was of God. |
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Post by ginamc on Nov 4, 2005 17:17:07 GMT -5
Hi Carol-I absolutely love that song! I have Sarah McLachlan's (sp?) "Mirrorball" tape where she sings that live and it's wonderful. After my daughter died, I listened to that tape over and over. So glad you got a message from Aaron-at O'Hare airport of all places!
Hi Leslie-Your story was very touching. With me, any song by Mariah Carey brings vivid memories of Kari. She thought she was the greatest and we used to listen to her Christmas tape every holiday. Hope to listen to it again this year. How are you doing?
Love to you all, Gina
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Post by anitaf on Nov 13, 2005 21:08:33 GMT -5
Hi Carol, My name is Anita and my son Matthew was just taken from us in a car accident on July 21st, 2005. The songs: On the Arms of an Angel and I will remember you were played at his funeral along with Green Day's Time of your life Every time I here these songs I know Matt is remembering us. I do get comfort from all of these songs, His music wasn't any of these but with all my heart I pray that in his short 18 years 1 week and 1day he lived the time of his life. I lay in bed at night or close my eyes during the day and see his laughter. I miss him with all my heart and soul. If we can claims these songs for comfort than I truly believe they are messages from our children. Missing Matt  Anitaf |
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Post by missingjason on Nov 13, 2005 21:20:08 GMT -5
Anita, I'm so glad you brought this thread back up, its a good one. Prayers for you tonight in this new stage of grief. Wish you didn't have to be here but glad you found us. You'll love the people here, they are so caring. |
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Post by MomofBuilder on Nov 13, 2005 22:45:19 GMT -5
I can't believe I didn't respond after my original post! Thank you so much for sharing your stories about special songs. I think I did write a response on a day when my posts were not going through. I intended to come back....
Aaron was a Jimmy Buffett fan and he and his wife and friends went to a number of concerts. A new song had come out shortly before he died and he liked it. It is Trip Around the Sun. It is about enjoying life while we have it. Aaron did that so well. He really had a way of loving what life had to offer and I am trying to learn that from him. I think I was doing quite well with it until he was gone....
Thank you again for your stories and comments.
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