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Post by mumsi7fl on Nov 3, 2005 3:27:47 GMT -5
Hi Everyone....so glad that I found you (thanks to Judianne's encouragement). This is such a wonderful place. In case you don't recognize my s/n, I'm Doug's mom (lost him on 7/10/2005....he was 37 years old).
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Post by judiann on Nov 3, 2005 10:36:26 GMT -5
Hi Helen! ;D I'm so glad to see you made it ! Hopefully, you will get to meet the rest of "us" here at SG, as soon as everyone finds their way back home. I'm off now......have an lunch date with my Dad & have to get ready [which takes forever!]..... not because of make-up & stuff.....I'm sooooo far behind in my housework & its been at least 6 months since I used my iron.......have to hunt down something to wear!! Love You & Welcome "Home", judiann
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Post by missingjason on Nov 4, 2005 16:52:56 GMT -5
Hi Helen, great to see you again
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Post by judiann on Nov 6, 2005 13:46:05 GMT -5
Hi Again, Helen! Didn't mean to be so short on my last post, but having a "lunch date" with my Dad only comes around every 5 years or so .....{long story}.....but I went & enjoyed it......guess he needed to blow off some steam about Mom & tell me over & over again how much I Should come down more......I let him know I would if she'd stop "beating" me up so bad. He didn't realize how difficult she makes things for me. Well, he knows now! Anyway....I read your tribute to Doug & wanted to say again I'm so sorry. Even though things did not work out for your beliefs about being anti-funeral, it's good that everything fell into place for a beautiful, loving tribute to your son. I hope you found some comfort, maybe some Peace, with your very special services for Doug. I think he probably liked it a lot too. I believe they stay with us, at least for awhile.....then come visit when we need them so much...... "what to him is but a brief moment, is hours, days, weeks, months and years of agony" for us......is so true. All the emotions you are feeling now will stay with you for a very long time. Some days will be bad, some will be badder, many will feel like the worst day of your life all over again.........when that happens {& it will} just go with the flow......cry, scream, throw things!.....go back to bed & stay there for days, if it helps. That worked for me many times. I heard a lot about staying busy helps too, but not for me......only made it worse & now I have several "projects" half started, just waiting to be finished some day. Anti-depressants didn't work either, still don't. I could barely function for the 1st 6 months & most of it I don't remember. I found SG about a month after my son died & read everything for about 5 months before I made my 1st post. It's been my life line since. Wow....I know you didn't ask for advice .......guess I must have needed to give some, huh?? Hope you don't mind. Thinking of you today, Love, judiann
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