So Happy This Board is Back Up

[momtodena]

I've been checking on this site quite frequently in the hope that it would be up and running again. Although I had not written in quite awhile, I always read the posts. I have found comfort in everyone's words of support and wisdom and in knowing that I am never alone with this horrible situation.

I've been having some hard moments lately; dreading the upcoming holidays. These will be a first for me; I am not planning on celebrating them this year. I really feel that will be the only way for me to cope this time around.

So thanks to the administrators for working so hard to bring this site back and thanks to all of you who share your thoughts, feelings and life with everyone here on this board. What great people all of you are.

[lindac]

(((((((((((((Kathy)))))))))))))

Welcome back. I think we all can expect some hard moments with the changing of the seasons and preparing to deal with holidays. While it is always hard on holidays time does soften it a bit. The Christmas after Sean died was terribly hard for me. I didn't want to put a tree up because of dealing with Sean's special ornaments. Finally i realized why i just couldn't get around to it and because we needed to have a tree for our granddaughter we went out and bought completely different ornaments, all blue and silver glass balls and beaded garlands. I bought a pretty angel ornament and a gorgeous dragonfly and that was our tree that year. You know, I really enjoyed that tree. It made Christmas seem different and while hard, it was doable. You do whatever it takes to get through the holidays. We do our best and that is all anyone can expect.

Good too see you back.

[Dougsmom]

Kathy,

I have also found that changing some of our holiday traditions have helped me make it through the seasons. Thanksgiving was our last family weekend together with Doug and we had spent it at MIL's. Since then we have chosen to eat out at a restaurant without other family members (although they have been invited). The restaurant is on the river very near where Doug died. In a way, it helps me feel he is still close to us and we are sharing the holiday with him. But, you will do what is right for you. As time passes you may decide to go ahead with the holdiays by making them different enough for you to cope with.

Leslie