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Post by Ash&JeremiahMom on Dec 16, 2007 5:00:28 GMT -5
I truly felt like I wanted to take my life after Ashley died and felt even in trying to talk about it. All I heard from many moms is the serious type of help I needed and that many of them could not relate or understand the devastation of my feelings.
I think it would also help even if it does not relate to a baby dying. I know when my grandma died it got worse for me to try to deal with not only Ashley but my grandma also. I went down to 80 lbs because my body shut down and almost died. They had to put me in a medical ward to tube feed me and save my life. So much happen at one time and I truly needed others who did understand. I felt like many just thought I was crazy
Debbie
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Post by prettyfeet on Dec 16, 2007 9:16:36 GMT -5
I love the idea. Although I wouldn't utlilize it right now, I experienced PPD after the birth of my first son, and would have at that point. I never did end up getting help, but I think if I could have seen right out in front of me what other people were going through, I might have recognized what it was a lot sooner. Sometimes the board moves so fast that serious posts about depression get knocked down the board before they can be addressed by everyone.
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Post by catt on Dec 16, 2007 19:06:59 GMT -5
yup it would be a great help to us
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Post by cantlaugh on Dec 17, 2007 9:38:11 GMT -5
I have been giving this much thought...I don't know if I feel this is a good board or not. I suffered from depression after my miscarriage, PPD after each of my births, and then again when Dalles left for Iraq.
I don't know if there had been a depression board if I would have posted on it. The help that I received was not from people that was expereincing depression at the same time as me...BUT from people that could say "I have been there, these are normal feelings, you have been through a lot."
The people that said "Yes Donna you need to reach out to the medical profession, this is more then you can handle"
I view myself as a pretty strong person, and I really don't know if I would have sought help on a Depression board....I really didn't think it could happen to me....I struggled with the thought that it was happening to me.....
If there was a depression board.....
Would people feel obligated if there were feeling down, to only post on the depression board? If your feeling down because of a miscarriage, loss of a child, or the death of someone close to you. You should feel down, and not up to being your regular self. That isn't depression, but normal grieving. When does normal grieving become depression? I don't know. I know for me it became depression, when my thoughts turned to "How can I kill myself with out having my husband or children find me" For someone else, it maybe that they can't find an end to the tears, and yet for someone else, they maybe stuck in anger. These are things that a doctor has to decide. Not a support board on SG
Depression is a huge topic with many different diagnosis that fall under the topic. PPD is only oen of those diagnosis. OCD is another. Chronic Depression as well as Acute depression. There is bipolar disorder...These are a few that Ican think of off the top of my head. Could we loose site of supporting grief, and become a depression support board?
Maybe we need to change the face of SG. and break down to the areas of Grief: Bargaining, Depression, Anger, Acceptance etc???
I am not saying I would not support an SG board. I am simply saying that on the face of it, it appears to be a good idea. When I really think about it, I am not sure if it is a good idea or not?
Love donna
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Post by ~MamaKat~ on Dec 17, 2007 14:25:46 GMT -5
I agree I think it is hard to talk about ppd or depression on these because evn in our missery we try not to rock the boat and upset anyone. plus For me I was afraid of people just telling me that I should just be thankfull for having a 3rd child and I should just be happy about it. if its a seperate board then mostly people who have gone through it or are curently dealing with it will go there and it will be easier to open up about how we feel.
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Post by butterflykisses on Dec 24, 2007 8:42:05 GMT -5
I think it would be great.
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Post by Clara Hinton on Dec 24, 2007 15:03:37 GMT -5
Please bear with me just a while longer while I make a desicion about the possible addition of a depression board. Thanks. I know that we have a need to openly and freely discuss depression, and to share with others what helps when going through depression. Plus, I think a depression board with guidelines to check to see if we might be experiencing depression or PPD would be wonderful, along with links to helplines. My fear, though, is what happens when a person says, "I want to take my life"? We, an internet community, do not have the ability to do anything to help other than give suggestions, names and numbers of hotlines, and to say how much we care. We must always be careful not to give medical advice to a depressed person. We are not doctors, and depression is a very tricky thing.......that's why you will hear me say 100% of the time to seek the help of a physician, counselor, and medication, or a combination of all three. If we begin a depression board, we would have to have strict adherance to guidelines about not offering medical advice. Is that making sense? Plus, I don't have access to home phone numbers of members or their doctors, etc. In times past, some of you have asked me to intervene and get a person help and I have not been able to do that. Any more thoughts on how we could discuss the very real issues of depression? I'm very open to your suggestions. Love, Clara
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Post by kb on Jan 13, 2008 22:54:34 GMT -5
I think this would be a great asset to SG!
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Post by sara on Jan 14, 2008 18:59:26 GMT -5
ITA.
It would be a great addition.
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Post by sara on Jan 14, 2008 19:05:06 GMT -5
I think my only issue with it right now is the privacy level.
I don't know if some people who need the support would use it because of the fear of something being taken off that board and used against them somewhere else.
I also love Donna's idea of something with the different stages of Grief. I know i'm in the "acceptance" stage and sometimes have a hard time reading about all the new angels on IHAS and replying to them.
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Post by SG2LG on May 4, 2008 11:23:36 GMT -5
I agree! It would be nice to have a place to find support for depression. Thank you, Clara, for considering.
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Post by ~MamaKat~ on Jun 25, 2008 9:55:03 GMT -5
sometimes just talking about it helps to talk you out of doing something really stupid. knowing that someone even someone you have never meet is listening and cares is enough to get you through 1 more day. and as anyone who has or is going through deppression knows you have to take it 1 day at a time. depression is very hard to deal with butt alone it is almost imposable. I have always though a bourd just for this would be great. present and past sufferers can go there to help eachother through the bad times.
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Post by Clara Hinton on Jul 2, 2008 15:07:20 GMT -5
You have me stumped on this one as to what to do. I want to give you a place to discuss depression and to offer suggestions for dealing with depresssion. However, I don't want it to turn into a place of threatened suicides or of an exchange of medical discussions about which antidepressants work better and why.
I'm not ignoring you; I'm still not sure what to do. My thinking is to have a depression board with very clear guidelines to follow. If we would have anyone take his/her own life due to something that was said, it could mean serious trouble.
Yay or nay to a depression board with specific guidelines and its own moderator?
Love, Clara
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Post by cantlaugh on Jul 9, 2008 18:49:33 GMT -5
Clara... I have continued to give this thought....Here are my questions? 1. Who would you have be a moderator of this type of board....It would need to be someone with not only expereince, but also education.....That person would need to know when to say when.....That comes through education.....Would I as a nurse be comfortable accepting this type of responsibility....No.....I think it could really be a liability for the person that accepts the responsibility. Think about the guidelines.... We do not want it to turn into a discussion of what medication is best....There is no specific medication better then the next medication....Dr. perscribe anti-depressants based on the patients symptoms....What is best for one persons symptoms isn't the best for another persons symptoms.... When this battle would arise, how could it be prevented?? At some point the issue will come up.... Would it be inappropriate to say something like....I am taking (fill int he name of medication) for my depression.....Then someone would say....Yes, I had that medication, but my doctor switched me to blah blah blah, because I expereinced blah blah blah....Most times when a debate comes up about something like this....It starts prettty innocently... In the guidelines....Would we want to control posting about how we are feeilng? I am so sad, I cry all the time, and I feel worthless....(This would be a natural response)....If I read this on a regular board...I would either run from it, or refer them to there physician....A trained professional should ask...."are you having thoughts of suicide?" If the response was yes....That should be reported to someone, to authorities, to someone.....Because the person is a threat to themselves.... What happens if someone is so depressed over the death of a child.....That they have blamed there husband....They announce on the board that they are going to kill them??? I by Law have a "Duty to inform" Inform whom??? Then look at MSN search.....Type in depression.....and the search would bring up silent grief....Jsut like now when you type in miscarriage or child loss.... The thing about depression....Is there are many types and forms of depression....Is the number 1 reason people commit suicide....The number 6 th reason people commit homicide.... I kind of feel like, a depression board would be boarding on the side of "to medical".....we have a miscarriage board (board topic).....We do not have miscarriage board strictly for those that miscarried due to genetics.....We have a loss of a young child, and Loss of an adult child board....We don't have a board strictly for people who have lost a child due to accidents or drug use....Keeping the topics broad, it doesn't single out any specific medical diagnosis....It actually probably helps to keep some of the flames low.... these are simply some of my thoughts....I thought I would add my two cents.... love donna
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Post by heidi on Jul 9, 2008 23:47:41 GMT -5
To be honest with you, when I'm really depressed, I become very self-absorbed. It's not something I'd feel comfortable chatting about on an internet forum.
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