Suggestion - An Adoption Board

[Darlanne]

Clara,
I just wanted to throw this out and possibly get some feedback about this. We are in the process of adopting ;D ;D and I really, really want to stay here at SG but I am not sure about posting on the MAL board and for those of us whose only option of building our families are through adoption I think it would be a very welcomed addition. However, I also know the need must be there and you are the only one who actually knows how great the need is. I just wanted to put this suggestion out there and see where it goes from here.

In love & peace
xxxooo

[dawnn]

Even if she creates an adoption board...I do hope you will post on MAL Darlanne. We have others that have adopted (or are adopting) after loss and it would be so nice to see your posts on your upcoming child. ((((hugs)))) I just don't want to lose touch with you!

[daisy]

Darlanne,
I agree with Dawn. Even if a new board is created I think that everyone on MAL would welcome updates on your upcoming adoption. Many congratulations!

[momtoWill]

Darlanne,

We adopted last year, and even though I have two older boys, I still felt a bit odd on the MAL, even though everyone told me how welcome I was.

When going through the process of adoption, I found that those on the MAL board were very supportive and excited for me and my dh. I even posted on PAL a few times, as there were still steps in the process, anxieties, fears, etc. I think most on these boards have appreciation of the process of bringing a child home....no matter what the method. I know there have been a few others on MAL who have gone through, and are going through, the adoption journey, as well.

Please don't hesitate to pm me if you ever feel like "talking". It's a wonderful and exciting journey you are on.....the love felt for these precious little ones is just amazing.

Take care...I am so looking forward to reading updates from you.

[melodyg]

You can definitely post on MAL! I do think it would be helpful to have an area dedicated to the adoption process though... that may fit in on the new "Moving Forward" board or may need its own board, what do you think?

[karybeth]

We adopted twice and both times I found MAL great for support, but a seperate adoption board might be nice. I have to say that laurabeth from MAL even notarized our papers for adoption #2. So do post on MAL, there are several of us who post there!

[ryanandciansmum]

I think an adoption board would be wonderful! DH and I adopted last year and since then I have not posted on SG often. It's not that MAL made me feel unwelcome, but going through the adoption process is different...it's not the same journey as having a bio-child. I couldn't identify with breastfeeding and post-partum issues. Instead I was dealing with having home visits from the adoption agency, learning about the bio-mother's family history, waiting for paperwork to go through, court dates etc.

Our son is only 15 months old now, but I know the day is coming when we will discuss adoption and tell him about how he came into our family. I would love to hear from others who have gone through this - how they dealt with questions, their child's reactions etc.

I too hope that I can offer support and encouragement for those considering adoption or who are just starting the process.

[momtoWill]

Ok...after reading Pauline's response, I have to agree that an adoption board would be a valuable addition. There are some issues that are unique when going through the process of adoption and raising our children who were adopted. I have to admit that there have been a few times when I've had some issues on my mind with dd that I haven't felt that others would necessarily understand, mainly because they haven't experienced it.

[sandruix]

This idea was so on my heart and then I saw someone had suggested it. I have been reading some posts on some women who want to give up on having children. It breaks my heart tohear this. I think an adoption board could be such an encouragement that they dont have to lose that dream. They may need that courage to push through with the idea. I think it would be such a great idea because I do think it presents a whole new set of issues that people need support through. Just like the PAL women have their tickers, these women can have something to show when their children will be arriving. Even for me I have children buthave considered the idea of adoption many times.

[dudefeb9]

GREAT IDEA!!!!!!!!!!!!!