Clara- how do you feel about siggys?

[Lendy]

Ok, My 2 cents.

For the ones who are currently pregnant or who have recently had a child after a loss...you've been where the others who have no children are...personally it gives me hope to see pregnant friends! I think the siggys should be left on when you want them on. But that is just me. I'm always (ok most of the time) happy for other ladies on SG who have announced there pregnancies or new births...and those mommies have the right to show it off!!!

LENDY

[judiann]

Dear Clara,

In many ways I agree with Tonya. I understand the feelings of no chances for any babies ever.......{this seems so hard to explain}
.......13 years ago, on Halloween, my 1st grandbaby was born at 17 wks & she lived for 55 minutes.
On Dec.21st, it will be 5 years for my grandson, also at 17 wks, born sleeping.
For only a few minutes, I was a grandmother, but it will never happen again. My youngest daughter can't have children due to scarred tubes & complications with diabetes.
My only hope of having grandchildren, died with my son.

I love to visit the PAM & MAM boards. It is exciting to know whats happening, who's pregnant, & meet the "newest" members of our family here at SG. It is such a pleasure to see & enjoy the happiness of the ladies on those boards & they deserve all the fun of having the pretty little things for their siggy's{?}.

Since we never had these things before, I didn't realize how much it would upset me to see them on the teen/adult board. I'm sure no harm was intended in any way.......just saying "hello" to everyone & how glad we are to be back.

So......what do I do now?? I don't want to block any of the pics or signatures on my board......I'm just really lost here

Love to All,

judiann

{edit to change my grandson's date....from 6 to 5 yrs ago.....I don't always remember right}

[teacher4]

I really feel overwhelmed by photos and tickers on FF....it's gotten out of hand...it could get out of hand here...

I think that tickers awknowledging our lost ones are okay...

But I think DPO, EDD, pregnancy tickers and ages of our little ones should be kept 'small' and by that just a simple line saying EDD - date or something...awknowledging it but not throwing it into people's face.

This site while TTC and PAM are about hope after loss, the primary purpose of SG is to have us help one another in our pain and grief...I just removed my pregnancy ticker off my profile because I felt it would be too much in someone's face in MTOM or IHAM...a simple line is enough.

Just my 2cents...
Dominique

[mamasue]

I don't know how to set up my siggy on this new format. Any help?

[kalajj]

Even in my darkest days of loss and despair, when I was posting on the boards that helped me so much, I always looked to the signatures of people who responded to my thread. Especially of those I didn't know. It was a way that I related to them. And it helped me greatly. I had suffered a devestating second trimester loss and equally awful miscarriages afterward. Many kind people responded on my threads. Reading their signatures helped me feel many strong emotions that promoted my healing and still helps in my journey today. Please don't limit the signatures. Images maybe, but not signatures. Thank you, Karla

[nightfall]

A couple people asked for a guide to turning off signatures for new people.

Clara, feel free to use these as you see fit. I do documentation as part of my job, so I decided to whip this up.

Just follow the images.

[Sue]

just wanted to add my recent observation/feedback.

i have used the option to turn off, so that I can surf faster etc., but because of that when I *want* to see the pictures that someone has posted, I have to log off, but then to reply, I have to log back on... so it's pretty inconvenient.. though an option is there, it's clearly not an ideal one for all situations...

i didn't mean this as a complaint but just wanted to add it in with the rest of the observations as I'm sure others would face this too, so it would be something to consider if/when the owners of SG are thinking about changes.

[Clara Hinton]

Dear Sue and all,

Thanks so very much for your input. I appreciate everything you all have said, and I must say that I'm at a crossroads as to what to do.

Obviously, on the former message boards we did not have the ability to do many of the things we can on these boards, including adding the pictures, the extensive siggy's, tickers, etc.

I've received a few pm's about this, plus a couple of emails--some pro and some con.

This is YOUR place of healing and support, so I want to make this as safe and as supportive as possible. Both sides of this topic have presented some very valid reasons for keeping the siggy's as well as for banning the siggy's.

So........I'm still thinking and watching and waiting to make sure that before a decision is made it is in the best interest of all.

Thanks so much for your love, patience, and understanding while I attempt to make a wise decison.

Love,
Clara

[Clara Hinton]

Dear Terrah's Hubby,

Thank you SO MUCH for the help! You have no idea how much I appreciate your "siggy tutorial". I'm sure many others appreciate it, too.

I am not as well versed as many of you in the tech department, but I'm learning quickly out of necessity! ;D

Again, thank you so very much! You've presented a very worthwhile option for our SG family--and you've made it EASY to understand!

Again, thanks!

Clara

[mamakelky]

I do like the idea of the tickers, they are kind of an uplifting change. But if someone messaged me saying it was offensive, I would take them off. Or at least turn it off when replying on other boards. I personally like looking at other people's pictures and tickers. Kelly