Can we just FF through the holidays?

[danielle]

Can't we all have remote controls that can ff through the holidays. I am really having a rough time with it. I don't even have a christmas tree up, no poinsettias, nothing. I mean I have my daughters gifts wrapped and all, but I still don't feel like making all the christmas cards out. Sometimes I feel like writting in those cards that they are so lucky. They have their family. They have their happy children. We are left crying at this time of year, when everyone else is so happy it is sickening. Call me a scrooge if you want. I just want the holidays over and done with. That goes for the Christmas music too. It just rubs salt in the wound. Sorry, just needed to vent.

[Teeny's Mom]

I'm all for pushing fast forward. I have not done cards and I am not going to. All of those family photo cards just hurt. Like you said, salt in the wound. Luckily we did a family photo a few months before she passed but we can't do one now. We have a tree but it is fake, all new ornaments that I got at the grocery story. I can't bear getting the old ornaments down. Everyone is happy buying presents, I wish I had Ally to buy presents for. My dd isn't even really interested. She said it is like we are pushed through the holiday by all of the expectations of society. Well, thanks for starting the ff wish. we are almost done with this dreaded season.

[judiann]

(((((Danielle))))))

I want to FF too. I think most of us do.......sadly we can't . I Hope you read the Holiday Bill of Rights I just bumped up........it sure helped me to realize I DON'T have to do anything I don't Want to. You don't either.

Your grief is still all so new, raw & devastating right now......the holidays only makes it all worse.

Don't bother with those cards this year....most the people on your list will understand......if they don't, well thats one less card to worry about next year.

Your daughter is young enough that a little "bling bling" with make her very happy. You know what I mean?? Maybe a little pre-decorated tree at the local dollar store {$10} a few sparkling lites & toys for her......she'll be just fine.

Don't push yourself or let anyone else push you......do what you need to do for you & your family.
Nobody else don't like it?......tough!! They're not walking in your shoes & don't realize how hard this is for you.
Christmas music?? Makes me sick to my stomach now.

So, from one "scrooge" to another, I send you Love & wish you Peace,

judiann

[heidiforever]

I always sign my kids names to cards. I don't know if it helps, but it lets everyone know that I have not forgotten, and neither should they.

[pamela]

I vote YES!!!! To that one Danielle. I just want them to be over so I can move on. WE have the tree up but thats it, only the lights are on it...its very pathetic here this year...I just can't do Cday this year....

I think many of us are feeling the Holiday Blues, Judian is right Danielle, your little one won't care as long as she gets presents. Give yourself permission to do Cday however you need to, your grief is so fresh and so raw....

Keeping you and your family in my thoughts.

Pam