vfib411
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My Abby
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My Abby
Dec 2, 2005 12:08:16 GMT -5
Post by vfib411 on Dec 2, 2005 12:08:16 GMT -5
My name is Jerry, my daughter was killed 32 days ago in a car accident when an 18 year old boy ran a stop sign and broadsided my wife's SUV. Abby was 3 years and 15 days old. She was my only child (1 step-daughter 16). I feel all the things everyone is mentioning. There hasn't been a day go by that I haven't cried and cried. I work as a Paramedic and right now have an injury to an ankle so I am working in the dispatch center. I was working when the call came in and heard it all. I just knew it was Abby.
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My Abby
Dec 2, 2005 12:32:40 GMT -5
Post by Corinne on Dec 2, 2005 12:32:40 GMT -5
Jerry, I am so sorry for the loss of your precious little girl, Abby. This had to be especially tragic for you hearing the details over the radio at the dispatch center. I am glad you found SG so soon. As you read, you will find many of the same feeling from all of us.
Are you and your wife able to talk about Abby? Please share your feelings. I wish I could say some magic words to help you through this. It is so difficult to get through each day. My best advice is to be there for each other and take it one minute at a time. Come to SG often and post your thoughts, no matter what they are.
Peace to you
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My Abby
Dec 2, 2005 16:24:18 GMT -5
Post by andrea on Dec 2, 2005 16:24:18 GMT -5
I'm so sorry for your loss Jerry. Nothing can be said to ease the pain but please know you aren't alone. I'm so sorry.
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Post by myheart on Dec 3, 2005 2:29:18 GMT -5
I am sorry to hear of your tragic loss. Some of us have lost our children to long illnesses, others like your self, have been taken so suddenly the breath has been knocked out of us. Or, better said, the life has been knocked out of us. I hope you and your wife lean on each other and help each other grieve and take each day as it comes. She knows more than anyone what you are feeling. I know how horrible you feel, I just lost my wonderful boy on Nov. 17th. I cry all the time and feel like my life is over....I miss him so, all I want is to turn back time. I wish you a moments peace.....
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Post by pamela on Dec 3, 2005 7:07:03 GMT -5
((((((((((((((((jerry)))))))))))))))))))))))),
I am so very sorry for the loss of your precious little Abby. My heart is aching for you.
How is your wife? Is she physically ok?
I hope that the two of you are able to lean on each other during this very hard time.
I am glad that you have found SG, you will find others who know how you feel and who will be here to support you during your very hardest times. Here the expression of your grief never has to be silent.
I know right now all of this seems like a bad dream. I wish it was jerry. I wish that you were still enjoying every day with Abby and not grieving for her loss.
Please come back and share more when you can. Take care of yourself and your wife.
Pam
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My Abby
Dec 3, 2005 12:54:25 GMT -5
Post by Teeny's Mom on Dec 3, 2005 12:54:25 GMT -5
Jerry, I am so sorry your precious Abby was taken so suddenly. What a horrible way to learn of the accident. Being at the dispatch center and hearing the call. That parent vibe that tells us when something has happened to our child is an interesting thing. While my Ally was being worked on at school, I had just arrived home from my school (not knowing my child had died) and the phone rang. I don't know why I didn't answer it, ( I thought it was a salesman - but I looked at the phone and felt a little Uh Oh) then when my husband came home and banged on the door - I knew she was gone, before I even opened the door. Again, I am so sorry. I am glad you found us here. Keep posting. (((Jerry))))
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vfib411
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My Abby
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My Abby
Dec 8, 2005 15:02:24 GMT -5
Post by vfib411 on Dec 8, 2005 15:02:24 GMT -5
I just want to die to be with my Abby. I wish I could just dream about her or get some kind of sign that she is ok.
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My Abby
Dec 8, 2005 16:10:05 GMT -5
Post by blessedmom2four on Dec 8, 2005 16:10:05 GMT -5
I'm not from this board, but I just had to reply to this, I am so sorry you lost you little abby, I cant even imagine the pain you must be feeling, I have a two year old daughter whome I cherish more then my own life, I lost my son before he was born and the pain was incrediable, so for you top have this little girl and love her for so long, the pain must be so much more. I just wanted to say it is normal to feel this way. I am a pastoral counsellor and I deal with people who have lost young children everyday. I can tell you to ease your mind that they all want to be with there little ones. I can promise you abby is okay though, I'm sure she had her own speacile aangel to hold her hand when she left this earth. Please take one day at a time, if you think to hard or to far into the future about this it will be too much. My thoughts and prayers are with you, please if you feel you need to talk or feel like you just cant handle things, PM me or anyone else here you feel comfortable with. You are not alone and your pain is still so fresh. Please take care and know I am thinking of you. Liz
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Post by jaredsmommyforever on Dec 9, 2005 1:01:35 GMT -5
Dear Jerry,
I am so terribly sorry about your loss of your sweet Abby. It makes me heartsick to know what you are going through and what you have to live with each moment. The raw, acute pain is overwhelming. I wish you weren't going through this. I wish that all of us weren't.
I hope you will keep posting. Also, I hope you will hear from Abby soon. I have been told that sometimes it is harder for us to hear from the other side when we are shrouded by this intense level of pain. But keep looking for signs. With such a strong bond of love, Abby is sure to reach out to you.
My best to you,
Jared's Mommy Forever
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