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[danielle]

We burried Christopher with his Buzz Lightyear. We had him tucked in his casket with his Spider Man Blanket. He was also burried with my Dads gold sailor cross, My husbands gold cross, My brother's(Christophers God-Father) St. Christopher pendant, and A rosary that had been in our family for many years. He looked like he was in a bed. He had his arm around Buzz and one hand snuggled to the blanket. He looked so brave, like he knew where he was going, almost like he was prepared to go. We had him in a Navy Blue suit with a nice little red tie. He would have liked that because he loved to wear his little suits. He was beautiful. (tears)

[duffield95]

We had Korri cremated because there was no possible way for a viewing. I couldn't stand the thought of her body staying in that condition and we decided to cremate. I am glad that we did that because we move a lot due to our jobs and we take her to all of our new homes and I don't feel like I am leaving her.

This is kind of silly too, but my one year old daughter knocked over the urn and dented it pretty drastically. My daughter died when she was in kinder and now she would be 8. So we got her this beautiful grown up looking silver urn to commemorate her birthdays that have passed and the fact that she would be in third grade now. And yes, we kept the old urn too.

[boogerbuttsmom]

I dressed Gabriela in the gown she wore for her baptisim. We wrappped her in a blanket her grandma got for her. We bought a little pink bear the day she was born that always sat watch over her while she was alive and we buried her with that bear sitting just where it always did up above her head. As far as memorials we have her pictures up on the wall and of course we light a candle on the 30th of each month in remembrance of the day she died. I have a other things of hers put away untill I can find something to special to do with them, her hand and feet molds, ultrasound pictures. At her grave I have taken up little angels and flowers and candles. We got a little tree for her grave that has little decorations on it. After christmas we are going to bring it home and I am designing a garden in her memory.

Mandy

[heidiforever]

You all have some really beautiful stories that you've shared! ((((hugs))))

[justinsmom04]

I know this probably seems selfish, but we didn't bury Justin with anything but the diaper he was wearing for the trip home. We only had 2 hours with him and I didn't want to let go of anything that he had touched or that had touched him. I kept his hospital gown, his hat, his booties......even his receiving blanket.

His grave has a large stone on it and I decorate it every time the seasons change. It's kind of ironic. While other moms are shopping for their children's Christmas clothes, Easter candy, Halloween costumes, etc., I'm shopping for flowers for Justin's grave, little figurines, or a flag to hang from the little pole at the grave. My DH wrapped a gift last year for Christmas for Justin and laid it at the grave. Miraculously, it has stayed there, through changing of seasons, tornadoes, and snowstorms. The paper has dissolved from around the gift and I now know that my husband gave his little boy a toy tractor for Christmas last year.

At home, I have one corner of a shelf devoted to Justin. His picture is there along with some trinkets people gave to us after he died. My pride and joy, however, is the scrapbook that I made in the year following his death. I pull it out occasionally and slowly go through the pages. I have been consumed with taking care of my new daughter lately, but I can't go by Justin's picture or his mold (the hospital made a mold of his hands, feet, and profile), without thinking of him and/or touching them. The ornament I bought last year for him and Baby H. have a prominent place on the Christmas tree and is the only ornament that I don't put away (it stays out all year long on a shelf).

I am so afraid that I am going to forget what Justin looked like or how he smelled or how he sounded, that I can't bear to put anything of his away. I sometimes think that people may think I'm some sort of nut when they come to my house and see our little "memorial."

I don't know if I'll ever get over losing Justin or Baby H. Even with the joy of having our new DD in the house, I'm forever paranoid that I'm going to lose another child. I pray to God that it never happens but I can't help but be nervous most of the time anymore.