Post by danielle on Nov 17, 2005 8:15:06 GMT -5
For those who don't know our story, I will tell it. It was Sunday June 26th 2005. The day started great, because Christopher had been sick with a stomach bug and was finally feeling a little better. He was playing outside all day with us and my daughter Samantha. He kept telling us he was hot, and that he wanted to go swimming. We kept on telling him no, (because he still had a touch of diarrhea and did not want an him to have an accident in the pool). I had softball practice at 5:00 so I was getting ready for that. Before I left Christopher hugged on my leg, and told me he loved me, so I picked him up and we cuddled for a while. As I was leaving he told me to play good baseball, and I told him to be good for daddy and that I loved him. When softball practice was over, I came home to some strange people in my yard, one was holding my daughter. At first I thought that my husband had a heart attack or something, so I ran to the house. As I was running, I saw Patrick (my husband) holding Christopher. I thought he may have broken his leg, or arm. Then I saw the look on my husbands face, and then saw my son. He was blue, his eyes were still open, and the color had left his eyes. I took our son and restarted the CPR that my husband had been doing for 30 min. before. The ambulance arrived about 15 min. after I did. They took him to the hospital, where they tried everything they could for about 45 min.
Patrick was watching the kids, and let Christopher go outside to play. He was watching him from the window in the kitchen. He went to change Samantha's diaper, and when he came back Christopher was gone. He went out to look for him. The last place he thought to look was the pool because It had a 5 ft. gate around it and it was padlocked. Christopher had only been gone for about 2 or three min. Patrick found him in the pool. He started CPR and was doing it for about 30 min and gave up about a minute before i pulled up. My husband believes it is his fault. Christopher was 3 years old.
This is why my husband is so full of guilt and anger. He thinks that he is a bad daddy. I talked to him about the problems we have been having last night, and we have decided to sell the house. Every time we go outside, we relive that day. The pool is there, still, because we can't tear it down. It was the last place Christopher was. I don't really go out on the deck anymore, because that is where we were trying to resuscitate him, and I relive it. Just coming home hurts, because soon as we see our house, the memory of that day comes back. I hope that this will help us. We just have to get away from here. We both love our little boy so much, we always said that we couldn't imagine life without Christopher in it. Now we have to live everyday without him. I hate it.
By the way, It is our 4 year anniversary today. we are going to renew our vows. We do love each other, and when I told Patrick what he was doing, he felt so bad, that was not my intention. I just wanted to make him aware of the problem. I love my husband so much, I hate to see him so hurt. Thank you for letting me get this out. I love you guys at SG.
Take care.
Patrick was watching the kids, and let Christopher go outside to play. He was watching him from the window in the kitchen. He went to change Samantha's diaper, and when he came back Christopher was gone. He went out to look for him. The last place he thought to look was the pool because It had a 5 ft. gate around it and it was padlocked. Christopher had only been gone for about 2 or three min. Patrick found him in the pool. He started CPR and was doing it for about 30 min and gave up about a minute before i pulled up. My husband believes it is his fault. Christopher was 3 years old.
This is why my husband is so full of guilt and anger. He thinks that he is a bad daddy. I talked to him about the problems we have been having last night, and we have decided to sell the house. Every time we go outside, we relive that day. The pool is there, still, because we can't tear it down. It was the last place Christopher was. I don't really go out on the deck anymore, because that is where we were trying to resuscitate him, and I relive it. Just coming home hurts, because soon as we see our house, the memory of that day comes back. I hope that this will help us. We just have to get away from here. We both love our little boy so much, we always said that we couldn't imagine life without Christopher in it. Now we have to live everyday without him. I hate it.
By the way, It is our 4 year anniversary today. we are going to renew our vows. We do love each other, and when I told Patrick what he was doing, he felt so bad, that was not my intention. I just wanted to make him aware of the problem. I love my husband so much, I hate to see him so hurt. Thank you for letting me get this out. I love you guys at SG.
Take care.
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