fact or fiction about conception

[lish]

I have 2 very close friends who have had actual, medical reasons they were given by specialists why they would never conceive or have problems conceiving after already long struggles of ttc. Both couples had come to terms with the course their lives had taken, one decided not to be parents, the other to adopt. Both had stopped actively ttc. And so I ask you, does this have anything to do with the fact that they are now both pregnant and out of their first trimesters? I know we have all heard stories like this. Is it the stress of it all? Does this mean none of us here should be opt-ing or charting? Should we bd only when we feel like it? Should those of us with unexplained infertility throw out our B6 and red raspberry leaf tea? Caution to the wind, so to speak? Any opinions? I am trying to decide whether or not to chart or use opt? Dh says yes. I, for one though admit, as I'm sure most of us here can, that even without charting and temping and testing, we know our bodies all too well. So, the next question . . . can we really give it over to God?

[mistygrl70]

I think charting and temping (though i never did it).. is an excellent way too keep track of ovulation.

I know I had issues gettin pregnant w/my first. Then I started working at a daycare and tending to 35 2-3 year olds.. decided I didn't want children. 6 weeks later I was pregnant.

Not sure if theres fact or fiction to that. But, I had to use b6 this time as I ovulated late.. between that and the preseed.. I think is what contributed to the bfp. In august when I got the bfp..dh and i decided it was our last month trying...

I guess I don't really have teh answers to your questions.. but I think when you start charting and temping and keeping track like that.. it's very hard to stop.

God bless,

[sarahsmom]

Lish, I think it all really depends on the person. Are you a type A personality? Is charting and using opk's something that you could really get obsessive about? For those who get upset or stress out over one day's temperature, then perhaps it is actually hindering her fertility rather than helping.

I find it comforting to chart and use my fertility monitor. Yeah, I know I'm strange! I like seeing the pattern that develops. It's reassuring to me that yes, my body is doing what it should and doesn't leave me wondering did I O or not this cycle? Or when did I O so I know when to test or when AF is late? Perhaps I O'd 5 days later than usual so instead of thinking I'm 5 days late AF is actually right on time.

Another reason I do it is so I have something tangible to take to my ob. She can see a clear thermal shift to verify O, double check our bd timing to see that yes, we've done all we can do when we're supposed to... so what's next in our steps to getting pregnant?

Just my opinion. The charting and CBFM might take 5-6 minutes to do in the morning(monitor takes that long to analyze results)... it's so not a big deal to me but can provide me with so much information. I may continue to use it after we're done ttc as a method of contraception. Hugs, Susan

[nikkimount]

I keep hearing those dread words from everyone "Just quit trying and you will get pregnant." I finally got so sick of hearing it I thought I'd give it a go. So, this month we are trying but not trying at the same time. We will still bd a lot we just won't know when to. Let's see how it works!

[my3girls]

Ok - I was adopted @ 3 years old after specialists at Duke told my mother she would never have children . . . same Dr 3 years later said that there was no way she was pregnant - I was 7 when my little brother was born. My mom swears that it happens right about the point where you say - never mind, this is too hard, I am done trying. I honestly think that your stress affects your body in ways we never realize & wanting to be a mother & not getting it is on of the most stressful thing you can ever go through.

I LOVE LOVE LOVE my fertility monitor - it was WELL worth the money. I can keep an eye on my "O" date & AF date without having to worry about charts & temperatures. My entire goal with the monitor was to be able to keep my mind off of the technical stuff as much as possible & just focus on my happiness.

Everyone on this board has different ways of handling their months - whether it is obsessing or finding other projects to keep yourself busy. I don't think there is any single right way to do it - or we would all BE pregnant. Good luck hon.

[lish]

Brie,
I feel stupid asking but what is your "fertility monitor?" I guess though, I am one of the "lucky" ones who has no problem getting pregnant, staying pregnant . . . now that's another story. I'm not at the point yet where I am using anything but opk but am always open to new possiblities. I just want to get pg again as quickly as possible. When you are ready, you're ready. And I have been ready for a year now.
Alicia