2nd m/c since Aug 1st (long)

[nboulier]

Hello again. SG has been dearly missed.

I just had my second m/c last weekend. I thought I was about 7 weeks along, but an u/s showed that I was just'barely' pregnant, but things looked ok (a week ago thursday). BUT then the nightmare started again. I started bleeding midday friday all through to sunday. Then spotted on and off for a few days. My regular dr wasn't available at the time, so I saw him today for a checkup. His a new dr for me and seem to know his stuff... BUT he gave me the same speal that I heard in Aug... 'I know this is a loss for you, but you would be surprised how many women have m/c' I lost it, I said this is my 2nd in less than 3 months... what do we do now?

Anyway, we did blood work again today and i go back on thursday with dh to see if we're going to do any tests or anything like that.

I'm on thyroid medicine and had a check up for that last week too, came home and told dh I don't need to go back for 6 months, except if I get pregnant again.... he looked at me and said "if?" do we really want to take a chance of a m/c again? I am just turning 30 next month, I know we have a beautiful 3 year old running around, but I can not even bare the thought of not being pregnant ever again.

Ok, sorry so long, glad to be back!
Nicole

[Racemom]

Nicole,
First I want to say sorry for your loss and secondly how sorry I am that your new dr was so insensitive. I hope that you will be able to find some answers.

Just want you to know I'm thinking about you. Hugs!

[kalajj]

Nicole, I am very sorry for your loss. Doctors have a way of being, well, just doctors, and not the sensitive and helpful support we need during the difficulty of miscarriage. I'm sorry. I hope you will find the sensitive and wonderful support you need here. Take care.

[grj]

Nicole -I'm so sorry for you loss and I'm sorry you didn't get the support you need from your doc. Just my humble opinion, but if you feel like you need answers, then I think you should push for testing to see if there is anything that could be causing you to miscarry. I know they used to say you only have a problem if you've had 3 m/c's ,but who in their right mind would put a woman through that kind of H***? The following websites have a good list of suggested tests that should be done after repeated miscarriages : www.inciid.org/ and www.fertilityplus.org/faq/miscarriage/rpl.html. I hope this helps. Gina

[Darlanne]

Nicole (((hugs)))
I am so sorry. My heart knows your sadness very well and I so badly wish you did not have to go through this heartache. There is nothing in life that can prepare us for this kind of sadness, but whenever your heart needs a hug, know that you have someone here who understands.

Dr.'s are a crap shoot when it comes to compassion and m/c; it's unfortunate that they all can't be loving and understanding instead of the clinical approach so many use. They share the stats with us, all of which we are familiar with thinking it comforts us somehow when all we need is an "I'm sorry" and a hug. Thankfully SG picks up where those Dr.'s leave off; this is where the true healing begins sweetie and know you will always find a kind heart here.

May the coming days be easy on your heart as this journey can be a very difficult one, however, you will not travel alone. Keeping you close in my thoughts and prayers.

Love & Prayers for Peace
xxxooo