Thank you gift?

[heavyheart]

Is it appropriate to give your OB/GYN a thank you gift for the support he showed during your miscarriage.

The nurse in the ambulatory section of the hospital was so unbelievable nice to me. Because there are 15 people in a room separated by a curtain for all different things you can get a bit lost. I was waiting and the phlebotomist (sp?) came to draw blood, I started crying so hard and she said, its no big deal its just blood. I wasn't crying about the blood. Although my dh was not allowed back at the time, the nurse went and got him and gave us additional private time together. She was very caring and nice. In the recovery area the nurse was a bitch. I woke up with tears going down my face and a wade of tissues in my right hand, the second my eye opened she said good she can go back to ambulatory (makes me wonder what the h*ll was going on when I was out of it). I bought an ornament that said thank you and a gift card for the nurse and dropped it off at the hospital last week. She was there, remembered me right away and asked how I was feeling both physically and mentally.

I also wrote out a card and got an ornament and gift card for my OB/GYN. Dh thinks it is a bit much but I feel my OB/GYN did a lot of things that were appropriate and took the time to be with us in addition he spoke from experience when he talked about the process of grieving a miscarriage.

When someone had done something that leaves an impression with me I try to thank them (I gave my OB/GYN a thank you gift after the birth of my dd).

Has anyone else done this?

[frankie]

hi there,

i think it's perfectly acceptable to give ANYONE a gift, for ANY reason...if you want to, go ahead...it'll prolly really brighten his day...not many people think of doing that, most likely, your kindness will touch him.

[peanutmomma]

my dr was so nice too...he stayed at the hospital with us all weekend...most of the nurses were really sweet too (except unfortunately for the one on duty when the baby came) I wrote the nurse that took the time to talk to me a letter and sent a copy to her boss. I sent the dr and the nurse that was with me at the time I found out a dr/nurse cookie boquet. It made me feel better to do something for them since they were so kind to me during the worst moment of my life. I told them if all dr's and nurses were like them, the world would be a better place. I hope that inspires them to be as supportive to others in the same position, however, I think kind people are kind regardless, maybe I was just acknowledging their kindness since they acknowledged my pain. I think if it makes you feel good, do it.

[my2angels]

Janice, who was the nurse that was with me when I went into the hospital and when I gave birth to Quinn, was one of the most beautiful people that I have ever met. Shortly after, I delivered Quinn, DH and I took a walk down to the gift shop and we bought her a Willow Tree angel (the Thank You one) and a nice card. When we brought it over to her, she had tears in her eyes and she said that she will never forget us.

She is someone that I will never forget...I only hope that when she looks at the angel, she thinks of us and smiles.

I think that what you did was very nice and thoughtful.

HUGS,
Cass