What if you found out someone lied about a m/c?

[mommyof3angels]

What would you do if you found out a girl you met this year lied about having a m/c and then about being pregnant again with twins?

[mrsj]

That's an interesting question. My first instinct would be to ask "Why"? Why would anyone lie about something like that? Was she very young and needing attention? Was it to keep a man?

I guess how I handled this would depend on how close the friend was. For a very close friend who had been honest, I would probably ask the "Why" question and thank her for at least being honest. That means a great deal to me. I would also probably hint that counseling might not be a bad idea.

For someone not so close, I guess I would consider them untrustworthy and wonder what else they had lied about.

In either case, I would be likely to keep my distance for some time, considering my own emotional state.

Hard question.

[mommyof3angels]

Thanks for answering. I met this girl back in April and she said she was pg and then a few days later said she m/c and even put bandaids to say she had iv's and had a d&c and buried the baby and then someone called to check on her after that and her grandma said she didn't have a m/c and then a little bit later she said she was pg again with twin boys and these girls that use to work with called to check on her a few months ago since she said they were taking the baby in September and her grandma said she isn't pg or never has been. I don't know why she lied about those things and even got my DH to order a baby book and birth thing for the baby she said she lost when he ordered some for our babies we lost.

[mrsj]

Weird. I'm assuming you trust the Grandma then?

I think if this was a close friend of mine and she hadn't said anything, I would almost want to sit her down and demand the truth. Almost. In another way, I wouldn't want to hear her tell me: A) she had lied or B) feel paranoid that she was still lying if she continued to say she had been pregnant.

I know my Mom would tell me "Just leave that alone girl", and she would probably be right. I just don't know. That question really made me think though.

[mommyof3angels]

I don't think the grandma would lie. Other people said they seen the girl out and she didn't look pregnant. Found out she was using some thing to make her look pregnant.

[bbear]

i had the same kind of situation. A girl i used to call a friend said she had a mc when i had mine. I had told her it was easier to talk to those that had been through it and then she said well there is something you don't know and preceded to tell a story about a mc. i don't buy it simply because if you have a mc you will do everything possible to be careful the next time around and she smoked full falvor cig like a pack a day the whole pg with her son. She didn't watch what she ate she still smokes and breastfeeds! She is the type of person that has been through everything! If you have done it she has!

[mommyof3angels]

Sorry you have been through this too.

[XicaChica]

Lying about m/c and a pregnancy. I would say this lady has some serious issues, more than I would be willing to handle at this time of my life......

[mommyof3angels]

I agree. She needs some help with her problems.

[frankie]

i dunno the first question that comes to mind is "why? what's the purpose?"

[mommyof3angels]

I wish I knew the answer to that. I haven't talked to her since I found out she did this.