My EDD is approaching (pg mentioned)

[daisy]

Hi. I don't post here a lot anymore. My EDD for my angel is November 30 and it is coming up fast. I am pregnant again and due March 29 and very excited. But I am having a hard time watching the calendar seeing November 30th coming up. What makes it so hard is that two people I know had EDD's close to mine, one on the very same day. Well, J whose EDD was also Nov 30 had her baby early (today) and I am feeling sort of weird. I am VERY happy for her (esp. b/c she suffered a terrible loss several years ago-her first child died when one day old). I guess why I feel especially weird is b/c my sister in law called me 2X today to report on J's progress in labor. It obviously did not occur to her that we had the same EDD and that I should be having a baby now, too. And when I told my DH that J's baby was born he didn't seem to notice, either. Has everyone but me forgotten my angel? Thanks for reading. I just had to get this out.

[sadmomof3and1angel]

Im in your boat, my cousin was due the same day I would have been. Nov 21 and she had her baby on Friday, my SIL had me online with all the details and I just gave heer short answers, thinking hello?? Figure out I am not interseted in this right now. Then my mom calls me at work to tell me. I just ferlt like it was being shoved down my throat. So I know exactly how you feel.

I hope the days to come are ok for you. Im dealing with my upcoming EDD too, so Im totally with you.

Love
Kelly

[nikkimount]

I'm so sorry honey. Due dates are hard. *Big hugs to both of you!* Congrats on your current pg daisy.

[Teardrops]

I know how hard that must of been. Sometiems we feel like we are the only ones who still remember. I know how you must feel so sad for your little angel. You will be in my prayers I am so glad your expecting a little one in march. At work a friend is pregnant and she's so happy but it just brings bad memories for me. Another frined at work came in with a sonogram picture. I was so choked up I almost cried on the spot. Needless to say I left early that day sometimes it seems like even if I try to have a day without the pain there is always a reminder. I dont' think people are very sensitive soemtimes they forget becuase it's not there pain. I guess we have to be patient and forgiving. God bless your little one

[Sue]

Due dates are tough so I'll be thinking of you all. I know that other people will never understand our pain but it would be nice if they would at least remember what we've been through. I was feeling particularly sad and emailed a close friend about it one day last week. She wrote back "I'm sorry that you are still sad about this". STILL?!?!- doesn't she understand that I will ALWAYS be sad about it?!?!

[momof3]

I hate that you are having a hard time but it is comforting to know that I am not alone. There were eight of us pregnant at my church at the same time. Three of them just had their babies and two of the remaining are due within weeks of my edd. My bestfriend and cousin are also pregnant. They send me ultrasound pictures and excitedly tell me how the baby kicking is keeping them awake at night. Then when I was sad my mom said "That STILL bothers you?" I really thought if anyone would understand it would be my mother. I guess not.

[daisy]

Thanks,so much ladies. I knew you guys would understand. I can't believe that someone would be surprised that we are "still sad" about a loss. Thanks again. Your reponses made me feel so much better. (((hugs)))

[Coping]

Thanks for posting this, Daisy. Your comments and the others help me know that my feelings are normal. My loss is so present all the time in my mind, but I don't think others understand how the sadness really lingers. Two of my four co-workers are pregnant, and it is very difficult hearing about their progress and plans. At least we all understand each other - even if not many others do.