I am no longer in this room, but found this poem..

[delia8]

I hope this serves to comfort and validate and not to upset anyone but it touched me....

Nobody Knew You

Nobody knew you
" Sorry about the miscarriage dear, but you couldn't have been very far along."
...existed.

Nobody knew you
" It's not as though you lost an actual person."
...were real

Nobody knew you
" Well it probably wasn't a viable fetus.
It's all for the best."
...were perfect.

Nobody knew you
" You can always have another!"
...were unique.

Nobody knew you
" You already have a beautiful child. Be happy!"
...were loved for yourself.

Nobody knew you
...but us.

And we will always remember
...You.

By Jan Cosby

[Colby's mommy]

That is a very touching poem. Thank you for posting it.
It is very true and very much so validates the way most people feel when someone says a thing like that knowing you have lost a child. Some people just don't know how to comfort people and come across to be very insensitive.

[Clara Hinton]

Thank you so much for sharing this poem. I miscarried six babies, and the hardest part of my grief was often the fact that nobody seemed to "get it". Because they didn't "see" a baby, to them my babies were not real.

The words in this poem are beautiful, and they have helped me--even though it has been several years since my last miscarriage.

Thanks so much for sharing this!

Love,
Clara

[julesie]

thank you for sharing this...it reaches touches each and every one of us...no matter what 'room' we are in...
Julie

[nikkimount]

Thank you for posting this. It really sums up a lot!

[Sue]

Wow- what a great poem. I wish I had this to send to all of my friends and family right after my MC. I think the biggest lesson that I have learned from our loss is that I can be more sensitive to someone in my life who ever suffers a loss. I think I would have been one of those people who thought people should just "get over it". I am so much more empathetic now and understand how tough and traumatic any type of loss can be.

[nikkimount]

I'm thinking of cross stitching that poem and framing it. I love it so much!

[mommyof3angels]

Thanks for sharing that.

[izzybee]

THANK YOU SO MUCH!!! I love it and thats just how i feel sometime...that nobody new!